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Something about an nearly-always confident man who isn't really afraid to seem like he knows he's the sugar honey ice tea is very Soothing to me or whatever. The lack of anxiousness. I like that. Trey Songz is like this. His interviews calm me down.

Damn.

he's just like my friend.

I just want to be around a man like that. I don't have to think about anything. A man like that is so smart, he thinks of everything first. He is confidence personified.

He even makes fun of my nervousness and awkwardness... So the fact he isn't bothered by it or effected... And the fact I am a walking ball of awkward nervousness... Whew... Thats a rarity. Most guys, i can tell, get nervous because I don't take over the convos or anything. But guys like Trey Songz... They would just fearlessly go up to me and say whatever they want, all smooth and stuff, and they initiate everything. Thats what I need 😂🌹 i feel complete.

I am 30 and my boyfriend is 25. I am his first proper girlfriend. We met just for a coffee date which went well. It was my bday a few days later and he sent me some expensive flowers which I was surprised about because we only just met. He still lived at home but came to see me the day after and we just chatted outside. He was very nervous and shaky holding my hand.

now we have been dating four months and had our first weekend away together and I’m wondering if this is normal in what I’ve recognised in the past four months:-

1. he said he loved me very quickly, and that he knew straight away.
2. He started to want to be with me all the time. He turned up at my house twice unannounced just to bring me coffee because I was working late
3. he proclaims his love quite a lot but says that he feels lost without me and just sits up in his room, he said his parents have commented on this
4. if I do something he will go and do the same thing or with buy what I have bought a lot.
5. He spends a lot of money on me for Valentine’s etc almost excessive for the amount of time we’ve been dating
6. he doesn’t bother with his friends anymore and says he doesn’t need anyone but me because they are all unreliable
7. he doesn’t like silence and I sometimes get the impression he needs a drink for confidence
8. when we were on holiday this weekend he drove dangerously in some quiet areas that could have resulted in us crashing
9. He says he has plans for us but it’s like he’s already decided these in his head and doesn’t consult me
10. I have spoken about past dating experiences. He then says about his male friends that he works with wanting to go on lads holidays and how many girls they sleep with but that he doesn’t want to do this because he thinks it’s not nice
11. saw on Facebook that he has had social anxiety in the past

Okay so my boss isn’t my GM, he’s just a shift manager. He’s 28, and he’s married with a baby girl who’s about 10 months old. I think he has feelings for me because we talk a lot outside of work, he doesn’t even sleep in bed with his wife, and he tries to build me up because he knows I have self confidence issues by complimenting me at least once a day and trying to get me to open about problems I have. I know he loves his wife, it isn’t an issue of that, but I know that his marriage isn’t where he wants it because he has told me that before. I make it a habit to talk about his wife, just because I’m paranoid about potential feelings developing that I obviously would not let continue because he is (obviously) married. Am I being paranoid? Is he being a good friend and trying to help me get out of my shell or should I be worried? I would love to not be worried, but guys have always sort of eventually fallen for me no matter how hard I try to avoid it happening. I don’t want him to have feelings for me either, so don’t think that, it’s just nice to have a friend and honestly I like the fact that he’s married because that’s sort of like a “you can’t like me because you’re married” type of deal and it makes me feel better when I get paranoid about stuff like this.