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I'm in a new relationship with a wonderful woman who works in a bank. She's always been really up front and honest with me (we started dating a few months ago.) And while discussing boundaries and what we sorta expect from each other she brought up a scenario explaining how this guy at her work massage her shoulders on occasion. And she admits that she loves the massages she does recognize that maybe it's something I wouldn't like.

So we talked it out, I asked all of the typical questions. He's good looking but she's never felt attraction towards him because he's so needy and insecure. He massages all the women's shoulders. He's never hid it from others. Nobody in the office seems to care. It's less than 2 minutes when it occurs. And it's maybe once a week for the last 3 years... which she said makes her unsure what she would even say if she was going ask him to stop doing it.

Logically I know he's no threat, there's nothing happening sexually for her, she never invites him to massage her, the chair is always between him and her, it's always just the shoulders and upper back, there's never been even the slightest miss touch or boob graze, there's no flirting between them.

And she's even said that if it was me in the office she'd probably not like me getting the massage.

So what are your thoughts? I need someone else perspective.

Lets say you are single and to change that you start using tinder. Then you match someone and start talking, everything is fine. And then, out of a sudden, you get another match and talking to this person is also really nice.

You haven't met any of them and somehow it still feels kinda wrong to flirt with both of them at the same time. What would you do?

• Drop one of them? How should I know, if it works out with the other? If it ends the next day, I screwed two chances.

• Be honest and tell both, that you are talking with others as well? Would that be a turnoff?

• Say nothing and see what happens? Feels really wrong.