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i am facing the risk of being forced to give up my position or change over to another store. i just barely found out the rules and they are holding it over my head about it. i have no idea what to do anymore. should i leave the company or give up this amazing relationship with the perfect loving boyfriend?

I'm so frustrated and really need male insight! First of all I am an attractive woman in my late 20's who is a med student. Never had any trouble getting the guys I wanted. So one of my classmates is a guy who is very attractive to me and is also a friend. He and I have always been a little *ahem* cozier than most friends would be, plus he does sweet things like tell me that I look great and hold doors for me. Honestly, it's obvious that he's liked me as more than a friend for a while. It took me some time to catch up, but recently I realized that I'm into him in a sexual way.

One recent night when we were out we finally started making out. It was seriously steamy although it didn't go further because I had to go home. Flirty/dirty texting ensued in the following days and I have decided that I totally want him as friends with benefits . I am super busy and just do NOT want a "relationship" and I know he knows that. From the sound of things, he doesn't want a relationship either. I value his friendship and I believe that friends with benefits can be just that, especially including the "friends" part. I have successfully done this with a classmate before and it was great; hush-hush at school with no drama.

But here's the problem: he seems to have low self-esteem and doubts that I am attracted to him! So, we haven't actually hooked up yet and it is driving me crazy. I don't know what to do besides just bonk him over the head and say come on let's f*&@!! But I hate to "chase" a guy because that seems tacky and desperate to me. Or are the rules for getting a guy friend as a friends with benefits different from the rules for actually dating? Because if I knew it wouldn't totally turn him off I would just ask him "when are you going to take me home with you?"

Please guys, what is his deal and what should I do? PS--I don't like random hookups because there is no mental/intellectual challenge there, like there is with a guy friend that you know and respect.