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I love my boyfriend but I think he has abusive tendencies and he’s going to get worse in the future and I don’t want to stick around for that. He has had a very hard life and he bottles everything up and it’s spilling into our relationship. He thinks he’s perfectly fine but he can turn verbally and emotionally abusive in a second and then he down plays it later on. We’re just a few months in, and he’s been asking me to move in. But I think if I move in with him, he will end up being PHYSICALLY abusive

Okay…..

so there were incidents with my boyfriend, that made me question about our relationship. Communication wise.

whenever I discuss with him about something, he makes jokes about it.

Example: I was telling him a story about me going to a Mormon church meeting. That he asked “are those the people who wear white gowns and burn black people on the cross?” I responded with “what?, no. That’s the ‘ku klux klan’.” Then he made a joke comment, “really? I thought you had a membership 😄” 🤨…. so I was kinda uncomfortable about that comment. Then he kept going on saying “you should join, cause you already look white lol.”

Then I changed the subject and was talking about my family. How my mom punishes my sisters and I, whenever our partners are unhappy. Like it’s our fault. Then my boyfriend made another comment saying “haha, so your mom would like me better than you.”

I mean I was kinda stunned about this conversation and what he said. That I let him go and hung up the phone. Now I’m here questioning and wondering how our relationship will be in the future. “Will he be supportive of me and be on my side and protect me? Or will he make fun of me in sensitive matters?”

This is my list of the many things my ex boyfriend has done:
- Lied about his real age for many years. If I knew, I wouldn't have dated him.
- Lovebombed and lied about a future, lied about wanting kids
- Succeeded in draining most of my fertile years (I'm now 34 years old and childless)
- Defamed my father (he plotted a rumor with his female friend) and my mother nearly filed for divorce
- Messed with my mother's health by lying about her plotting things in our relationship. This made her cholesterol levels (out of stress) and heart beat to rapidly increase.
- Scammed me with over $1,200 and never paid it back
- Was obviously cheating the whole time and likely used my money on women
- Said ''when your grandma dies, don't talk to your aunt anymore''. He was after money.
- I eventually discovered he wanted my parents to already put me in their living will so he can get 1/2 of my portion.. he one said ''your dad should already include you; who knows when your parents will die.