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The other day was my birthday. I'm not a party girl and I grew up not getting gifts from my modest family so honestly just a happy birthday and a cake is more than I can ask for it means a lot already.
Now these last few months had the 5 of my friends birthday just coming one after the other and we had so much fun at each of them we always did the most with a homemade little buffet next to the cake and decorated the party room colorfully with balloons, confettis and had games and danced and took a lot of photos treating the birthday girl like a queen.

Now when my birthday came, only 3 of my friends showed up and my bestie started the day by texting me she'll only stay 3 hours. The table had a cake, crisps ans candy while the room was not decorated at all. They usually make a fuss about how no gift should be opened without them filming but this time they asked me to quickly open everything while they weren't even looking my way just discussing among themselves.
They usually take tons of photos from all angles of the birthday girl with the background decoration and the filled table but they didn't ask for any this time even though I made the effort to wear makeup for the first time in a year.
They also hype the birthday girl and fight to take pics with her acting extra docile to make her feel like a star on that day but this time they would literally tell me to move away when they take their pics and when I point out "hey it's my birthday haha" they answered "that doesn't make you a star lol move". Also no one danced even when I put their favorite songs hoping to get some reaction...

I wasn't expecting anything crazy, I know I'm the mom of the group and the one to direct and do the decoration + homemade snacks every time but I was hoping to at least see them have fun and get some of that energy back that day but I ended up really feeling not cared for. I'm a boring quiet girl so I knew it won't be as fun I understand but their behaviour still hurt me...

So this guy just messaged me after how many months since we last spoke. He’s an old friend/old coworker like 6months ago. We went one date but he told me he only sees me as just a friend and told me to go for his friend instead.

Anyways, fast forward to now, he recently messaged me out of nowhere to catch up. At first I was just going to ignore but my curiosity got the better of me. Anyways after awhile he asked me “can I ask you a question?” I responded kind of late and said “sorry what’s up? You okay?” He didn’t respond so I messaged the next day and asked “So what is it?” He still hasn’t responded and it’s been 2 days now.

Should I just call him and find out what he wants from me or should I just move on and forget about him? Please help I don’t know what to do. It’s driving me crazy that I don’t know what question he wants to ask me but at the same time I’m just trying to forget about it.