Start by having your mom watch your kid 1-2 nights a month at least so you can have official date night with him. Give him some grace. Proposing is awkward. My brother in law handed my sister in law her ring on the way to a basketball game and asked if she wanted to wear it. They are happily married with 2 kids.
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He cares. He is trying. Make space for you two to bring the romance back.
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Sometimes if you want something done right (the way YOU want it done) then you have to do it yourself. So here's a thought... why don't YOU go out and spend $3,000 on a ring for HIM and get down on YOUR knee? I'll but he would love it if you shirtless, too.
But seriously, women like you give all women a bad name. You are self-absorbed and your priorities are all messed up. Either accept him as he is and love him back, or cut him loose so he can find a better woman.
He's obviously not perfect, but clearly neither are you. You're a single mother, and at your age that's a big strike against you. And yet he accepts you as you are and loves your child. You are lucky to have him. Stop knit picking and start appreciating what you have, or just say good bye. But for fuck sake don't ask him for a redo. That's just not cool.
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What is it that you want from him? Is he THAT far off the mark?
Imagine how nerve racking it is to propose to someone. Your putting your heart out on the line hoping that that person won't stomp on your heart...
So don't stomp on it. We dont live in Disney movies... it's romantic enough that he got on one knee. He loves you... loves your kid... has known you a long time. Seen you at worst.
Just love him back.
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Ahh, the fact that he’s a good father to your toddler, his commitment to you, and the expensive ring he bought even though he was broke is not romantic enough? Please do not find fault in everything. Sure, you may have wanted the cliché romantic proposal, but he did buy an expensive ring for you. Think about it.
You're young and have unrealistic expectations. (You can thank romantic comedies for that.) If you want a redo that meets your standards, why not tell him what you envisioned? If you're expecting him to read your mind, you'll be sorely disappointed. Give him a chance to make that come true for you.
You don’t find it romantic that someone wants to commit to you for the rest of their life? That’s romantic enough.
If you truly love him, that should be enough. Not everyone is showy or grand gesture style. Though for him, that may have been a grand gesture.Lol. A redo? You are young and, bluntly put, stupid. Asking your boyfriend to redo his proposal is akin to slapping him in the face. 6 to 8 out of 10 proposals are awkward and not at the right time either. It's Hollywood and celebrities with all the time in the world to do a few retakes before they publish a polished reversed proposal that makes them seem more than they are.
I never really proposed to my wife. After the third date we both knew we were going to get married. I thought it was cool we had that kind of relationship but years later I feel bad I didn;t make a bigger deal about it.
We have had a great marriage for 25 years and sometimes I mention to my wife that I never really proposed and she always says that I have been showing her how much i love her for the ;last 2 years.You sound like a user. I bet your first man seen it. This one doesn't seem to have much empathy. So he can't see that you are a user. Users don't deserve marriage. They use and abuse and discard or get discsrded for their abuse. I feel sorry for your child. Users bring up even worse beings than they are...
You need to break up with him. 🤔 Clearly, you aren’t feeling it. This man wants to spend the rest of his life with you. He brought you a ring and got down on one knee. If this was the right guy, this would be enough?
If you truly want to marry him and can see a future together, why does it matter how he proposed? You have a life time of memories ahead of you.
Just bring up casually how he said he’d redo it, and that you’re expecting it. Guys don’t tend to think about this stuff so don’t take it personally and just remind him, they just don’t realise how important romance is in a relationship.
Yes tell him and make sure you smear on very thick. Show him your true colors and let’s hope he sees them and runs
Most guys want to start their own family not move into one that another man started. Its harsh but its the truth, you would be better off going back to your childs father. Godspeed
You are perfect and deserve nothing short of perfection. The fact that he loves you and is great with your kid means nothing. Dump him and find you a rich guy who's hopelessly romantic and doesn't mind dating single moms.
So it's not enough that you're a singe mom and belong to the streets, you still have men desperate to bang you and you're so ungrateful and take everything for granted and have the nerve to complain about him on top of everything.
So, you purposely want to hurt his feelings because you didn't like his proposal? Wow, talk about petty
Trust being the foundation of a relationship & communication a close second of course you should tell him.
‘not been on a real date in 7 years’ lol, not been on a real date whole life. Anyway, what GaG folks can do, talk to him and explain
What's most romantic thing u did for him?
really?
Seriously?
You're going to complain about, a proposal.. wow, just, wow
This is why I stay singleWe’re not perfect. We can’t always get something like that right but we can try to do the best we can
Smh…. Not sure that it matters.
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