Should I propose to my boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

My boyfriend has recently bought me an engagement ring but he never got to propose. I had a lot of family drama going on when it all happened. And we mutually decided to take a break.
He ended the break (it lasted about a week) but ever since we both got back together we are both having trust issues from the break and it’s leading to a lot of arguments that he is now panicked that he’s toxic for me.
I know that having arguments is not great however I do truly believe that we can get past both of us getting hurt and blaming the break on one another.
He’s very traditional and women don’t usually propose but I can’t help but wonder that if I did it maybe he’ll stop being so worried about me leaving him.
what do you guys think?

[LEETSBEREAL]

Ask him what needs to happen to move forward. Is it you taking responsibility for not calling him the week he stormed of to the mountains. Same for you does he need to take responsibility for actually running of to the mountains rather then staying and working it out.

once you both agree to take responsibility for each of your part in this you should be able to move forward.

If he is traditional don't propose. Your going to destroy him he bought the ring so when he is ready that's when he will. It's only certain men you can propose to and he will be over the moon he isn't one of them. Do not fuck this up further by asking when he wants to be the one to do that.

You need to figure our where this insecurity of you running off is coming from he was on the mountains for a whole week you need to be asking him what the hell he was thinking about to come back and insist your silence translates into you've left him.

Where did he get that from?

You two need to talk. This clearly goes deeper then the one week break he clearly has been doing some thinking you need to figure out what.

Are you sure he went to the mountains alone? This behavior is a little suspicious.

On the other hand it feels like he is looking for a way out.

[AmandaYVR]

There have been polls on here and vast majority of guys vote no. Don't do it. You'd be taking away a very important milestone for him.

Besides, you've already talked about it. He bought the ring. There are reasons he is not proposing and although girls are usually the more enthusiastic about getting married, you can't push men into it. They're even more likely to regret it. Divorces are not at 50/50 right now, but the reasons are complicated. In general, we can still say that they do not have high odds of working out. It should not be under duress.

You can talk to him about his and your concerns, but the final act is his.

[Browneye57]

Break = I want to fuck other people.

If you can't make things work while together, how in hell will you ever make them work apart.

This relationship is DOA.

And no, if you think you're going to be the man in the relationship you're fooling yourself. Him too.

[Asker]

No. Break was he went up to the mountains for a week his own to think and I took care of family issues.

[Browneye57]

Which changes NOTHING.

[bamesjond0069]

"He’s very traditional and women don’t usually propose..." do it and prepare to ruin your relationship even further. This is about as slimy to a man as a man telling you you have to have sex when you're a virgin tonight and putting you on the spot about it.

[boggboss]

That u proposing won't fix the issues u are having just super coat them

[boggboss]

Suger coat

[Asker]

The issue was that we didn’t really agree to take a break he drove up to the mountains after an argument and I didn’t call until he came back.
It was a stupid argument about my grandfather being sick and past that we’ve never really had any issues. Now he thinks I’ve left him because I didn’t call and I think he left me because he was the one that drove to the mountains and didn’t call.

[boggboss]

So u both where being stubborn idiots fix the issue then again proposing won't fix this

[Asker]

Hahhahaha fair enough I appreciate you’re opinion truly ❤️

[boggboss]

Hope it works out u guys need to sit down and both accept responsibility for being clowns and to improve communication going forward

[Anonymous]

As boggboss said you proposing isn’t go to fix any issues you have try to talk to him

[Asker]

That’s the only thing we’ve been doing since we got back together having the same exact conversation about the break blaming it on the other one not seeing eye to eye arguing and then moving on to something else and I just can’t hear the same conversation anymore.

[lilyanony1]

Modern times anything goes. If you want to get married I can't see what the issue is.
He's already thinking about it.
But if you ask maybe you might ruin what he has planned... Hmm...
I dunno now.

[t-8900]

I never want a woman proposing to me. A woman can ask me out or invite me to bed on her terms. But her proposing to me would be a huge turn off

[expressiveshorty]

You proposing won’t fix the issues you have right now. You already have a few flags going for you. Trust and toxicity. By you or him proposing won’t make things any better. Is best to waited out!

[Alyssa11]

You shouldn’t feel the need to propose to your boyfriend. Especially if he’s shown intention before.

[Alyssa11]

Maybe you should just hunt you want to stay with him and make things work

[admles]

My mother proposed to my father.

They had their 44th anniversary earlier this year.

[Anonymous]

The real deal question is who's gonna take who's surname or double surname?

[jimmy2]

My wife propose to me lasted 36 years

[Asker]

How did you feel about her doing it? Did you ever wish you did it?

[jimmy2]

Not really

[cocoamaca]

Clear the air before you take any further steps

[WowwGirl]

No ma'am that's his job if he so wants

[WowwGirl]

If he wants to marry you wouldn't he ask?

[Iron_Man]

Let him do it drop hints

[Julious0202]

Dont do it! He is the one that has to

[Wise4myage]

That’s up to him.

[Wester1967]

Do it

[cndni80]

Yes. Leave

[Nachowedgie]

If you want to