You may not realize this, but buying a house together is a HUGE business and financial commitment, and one that can have lots of unintended consequences if things go wrong.
Some examples:
What will you do if you break up? Can one of you afford to buy the other out (I doubt it)? Will you sell the house? What if you are upside-down on the mortgage because values plummeted? What if he stops paying; will you let YOUR credit be destroyed too, or can you afford the entire payment yourself? What about the property taxes?
What if you find you can't live together? Maybe he's a slob, or 3 months after moving in decides that all the walls need to be painted neon green? What if he cheats on you? Or what if you just realize that you don't feel as strongly about each other as you thought?
Buying a house is WAY different from renting one, and if you are not already a legally-joined entity, you'd better go over all of these potential issues with a lawyer and have a good contract drawn up, because when things go bad, people who "love you" can do some very rotton, nasty things sometimes, and it can take a decade or more for you to recover, so you really can't take this lightly.
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I don't really see the need for a ring before moving in together. A ring is a symbol of commitment, not commitment in itself. And so is buying a house together.
I really think that's insane. Is it going to be in both of your names? It doesn't matter that you think you belong together. That's a HUGE commitment. If you really belong together, then why not put it off? If you're right, then you'll still be together in a few months.
You have no idea how messy things get when there's property involved and you don't last. This isn't the kind of decision you should make after two months. It's nice that you think you belong together, but you should be together for a while and KNOW and prove you belong together before you do something this big.
I think that you should go for it, My fiancee and I decided to buy the house first before getting married simply because we knew that we wanted to share our lives together and we wanted to use our money on something will were going to need in our future instead of spending it on our wedding, I think that right now if you both are in the position of buying go for it, the wedding will come regardless.
My cousin and her boyfriend have been together for about 10 years, still aren't married, and they have a house together.
As far as not being together long, I think that when you know, you know. My parents are a great example - from the day they met to the day they were married, they'd only known each other 9 months. They'll be married 22 years this July.
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By the way, most importantly, if you are asking OUR opinion, this isn't right for you. You clearly have doubts. Don't do this until you are sure and secure about the situation (and if he loves you the way you seem to think he does, he won't want you to do anything until you are absolutely positive it's the right thing).
Wait about 10 months longer. Yes, don't buy a house together until you're married and have it all worked out legally. If one of you buys the house themselves and the other just lives in it paying rent, that's different.
Get a prenup,let him propose You and then you guys marry each other.Then buy house,car and whatever asset You want to buy.
I think your foolish to be talking marriage so soon ... OK I'll just shut up now =(
I think some type of commitment should be talked about before buying a house together. Otherwise if your helping with the downpayment & mthly mortage. Whts in for u?
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