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This is about the recent ex I found out had a girlfriend the duration of our relationship and gave me an STI. I’ve been going to therapy trying to heal, he called me some hurtful things like a hoe and said I meant nothing so I left him alone after expressing how i felt. That was almost a month ago, now he started blowing my phone up telling me to pick up. I was annoyed and finally answered asking what did he want and he began accusing me of telling people about us and bothering him and his girlfriend.

I haven’t done anything and I saw the girlfriend followed me which I found weird so I told him no one is bothering your relationship and since I meant nothing why does my words matter. He told me well if you not then ok just leave me and my girlfriend alone. He said I liked and unliked and kept following and unfollowing her and told people we were exes. I just laughed but now I’m concerned on who is talking about me, and why the girlfriend is stalking/lying on me. I told him if he’s happy I’m happy since after finding out he cheated on her with me and gave an STI she’s still with him I didn’t care. I just want to understand why now…

I help my ex with money when he was my boyfriend.
he is poor.

he broke up with me
he says we have no future because I don’t have a career and he has no job & too old to start anything in his view

he didn’t care to hurt me even if I said I didn’t care if he was poor.

I understand this we have nothing but it doesn’t mean we can’t try. In my view

he doesn’t want to work a regular low paying job he sees it as losers do that.

I had to beg him to be my friend, after the break up. he didn’t want to even talk to me.
i begged only until I could feel better. he blocks me a lot of I say things that make him mad and I have to repeatedly bag him to unblock me because I’m lonely.

having someone to talk to helps and I don’t have money to be paying a therapist.

I have money because my parents have money.

fast forward to today, i am still depressed but feel less sad on days we talk

sometimes he makes me more sad but overall at least I have someone to talk with

back to the purpose of the question

his mom suddenly became sick.
since he is poor he can’t afford to go to specialists and can only receive the medical attention that is free

she’s been in the hospital more than a week now,

still no answers on what is wrong and the situation is getting worse

she has pain, losing her vision & today they diagnose her with COVID

No answers on the initial problem but now gave her COVID. She did not have it when she got there.

he asked me if I could help him with money again
so that he can take her to a hospital in a better city

QUESTION:
would you Help him with money if you were me?

he’s obviously not going to pay me back because he’s Poor

i was saving money to do surgery on myself for aesthetic reasons.

somehow feels selfish to say no and then use the money I have to make myself look better.
if his mom gets sicker or dies I would feel guilty even though it’s not my responsibility.

what would you do?
advice?

Many muslims were hated because of the terrorist attacks, not all muslims are like that. One of my ex Malay classmate told me that Islam is all about peace not creating chaos and destruction. I’m very upset when those ISIS terrorists never stop with their ruthless attacks. Now it’s Asians getting all the hate because of Covid-19. They should stop eating certain strange foods so Covid-19 will never exist but still they didn’t care, it’s a good thing I’m not born in China.

Not all muslims are terrorists and not all Asians are responsible for Covid-19.