Boyfriend likes his ex's Instagram posts?

[user102021]

My boyfriend has always mentioned how his ex was so ugly and how pretty I am and how lucky he is for me to have gave in opportunity, and I have always believed him as I never cared for his past. But last night I was looking for a specific picture of us and I noticed how he still had pictures of his ex. It bothered me very much because I deleted all the pictures of my ex's. I didn't want to jump to conclusions and start an argument right then and there so I ignored it and I asked him what was her name as part of a conversation that I brought up and of course he didn't tell me. So obviously my curiosity led me to looking for her Instagram which is why I wanted her name but since I didn't know it I was just looking for her with reference of the pictures I saw from about 4 years ago and sure enough I found her. when I found her I noticed that he still likes her pictures and they follow each other and they like each others picture. Also She is not ugly at all she is very very pretty and that just made me feel so insecure and so bad about myself that he could even still be doing that when I'm his girlfriend and not respecting that. Also I am not a jealous person but just seeing those pictures hurt me and seeing the likes even more. I don't know if I can be with him after seeing that. should i talk to him about it? I'm not the type to talk much I just act but I don't just want to cut things off its been 3 years and I want to talk to him but I don't know to to start it help?

[BirdieBeep]

Honestly, I don't think there's anything wrong with them still being friends if he was open about it. But it is extremely sketchy that he is trying to hide anything about her from you. I'm good friends with my ex and I am very transparent about this with my current boyfriend and made 100% sure he is cool with it, and to let me know if anything about it ever makes him uncomfortable. Keeping it secret would not sit well with me at all.

[PrettyPriya]

So you have been together 3 years and this just started or you aren't sure?

[user102021]

We have been together for 3 years and I never noticed anything. The pictures have been on his phone for years and i have never looked through it but what bothers me now that I think of it and is that there is times where he doesn't have storage and he will go deleting pictures yet he never bothered to delete those why? and for the likes its fine if he stays friends with his ex's the thing is why hide it why tell me he has no type of contact them when he does. Why say she's so ugly yet you like the pictures when she clearly isn't ugly. that's why its bothering me, he can follow who ever he wants and like whatever he wants I've never had an issue with jealousy in that aspect. But in this case I think he should give me that respect and not do it with his ex's. maybe I'm overthinking or exaggerating correct me if I'm wrong

[PrettyPriya]

@user102021 If in three years he hasn’t given you a treason to trust him, I’d say it isn’t a thing.

Sure, would have been nice (and good communication) to let you know. It doesn’t seem like he has contact outside of an app.

I think best to talk to him and just tell him how you feel. Like that you would have appreciated knowing that girl was an ex. If it bothers you that much, he should respect that.

[PrettyPriya]

@user102021 Thank you kindly for the MHO! 😊

[Klinklins]

I follow my ex and likes her pics. That doesn't mean anything. Sometimes I likes without even looking at the pic.
BUT, IF YOU ARE WORRIED, talk to him about this.

[Gingerguy33]

Definitely a red flag in My book no matter how long you’ve been dating I wouldn’t put up with that stuff

[PhenomenalQueen]

Heard it before, don’t fall for it. Sometimes they do this so you let your guard down and ignore things that should’ve made you question their intentions. There’s a reason why he spoke about his ex in a negative way.

[Anonymous]

Yeah talk to him. However I must say I don’t understand what you were thinking getting yourself involved with a man who calls his ex ugly. Like seriously. Major red flag of an immature and disrespectful asshole. Immediate turn off.

[Anonymous]

I bet he was the one who hit on you or hit you up