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lim·er·ence: near-obsessive form of love... the state of being involuntarily infatuated/obsessed with another person, and characterized by a strong desire for reciprocation of one's feelings but not primarily for a sexual relationship... Thoughts of the limerent object (or person) are persistent, involuntary and intrusive... This may be caused by low serotonin levels in the brain, comparable to those of people with OCD.
Limerence is characterized by intrusive thinking and pronounced sensitivity to external events that reflect the disposition of the limerent object towards the individual. It can be experienced as intense joy or as extreme despair, depending on whether the feelings are reciprocated...
Basically, it is the state of being completely carried away by unreasoned passion or love, even to the point of addictive-type behavior... Sometimes fantasizing [about the person] is retrospective: actual events are replayed from memory with great vividness...
Physical contact with the object is neither essential nor sufficient to an individual experiencing limerence, unlike with one experiencing sexual attraction...
Other characteristics [of limerence] include acute longing for reciprocation, fear of rejection, and unsettling shyness in the limerent object's presence... feelings of limerence can be intensified through adversity, obstacles, or distance—'Intensification through Adversity'.[14]...
But when rejection seems likely the thoughts focus on despair, sometimes to the point of suicide... Although the direction of feeling (happy vs unhappy) shifts rapidly, with 'dramatic surges of buoyancy and despair',[15] the intensity of intrusive/involuntary thinking alters less rapidly, and only in response to an accumulation of experiences with the particular limerent object...
Limerence can last from a few weeks to several decades, with the average being 18 months to three years.[22]

What are your opinions of the idea that "Everything can be joked about or nothing can be." Personally I agree with this completely.

I feel that humor is one of the next steps people take to getting over a tragedy... If you ever read some of these books on survival stories. Really harrowing tales. They all contain parts of humor or a joke the person may of made or thought

You may wonder why... Since some of these people were close to death in some cases... It's cause humor makes us happy. It makes us not take life so seriously. Can you imagine a world void of humor. Suicide rates would probably rise.

Sounds like harsh comparison but I believe that. Now the only small grip I have with the statement is that there is a time and place to joke about anything.

Say something recently lost a loved one. I would not be joking or mocking them right away or anything. That's too soon and can cause more damage than positivity. But say the person has been dead for years. I won't so much mock their death as in rather joke about them as a person.

I've mentioned in another question before how Im friends with rape victim. And she jokes about it a lot. And it isn't in a forced manner. It's known to be a coping mechanism.

So my question to you is. Would you rather live in a world with no jokes or a world were everything regardless of how serious is able to be joked about.