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Long story short, once upon a time I found myself involved with a lady who happened to have a husband.
One day while I was out with some of my friends, I received a call from her and I instead offered if she would like to hang with us.
She agreed, and when the night was coming to a close I asked my friends what do they think about her, noting that she is someone who likes to have fun.

I guess I misread the situation and her intent for being there, because she pulled me aside and started with "what the fuck is that supposed to mean?" and that "that's (fun) not what this is for me".
After that outburst she left, noting that she doesn't want for us to meet anymore.

Boy, was I confused.
Was the prospect of ménage à quatre simply a wake up call?
Is telling oneself that there is something more to it a common way one's ego tries to justify itself in these situations?
If it is perceived as anything more than an outlet, why remain in one's original relationship?

If you have cheated in the past, what were your reasons?
Did you ever harbor romantic feelings for or emotional attraction towards the third party?

Feel free to go anonymous on this one.

Sometimes there are sparks with other people even if we're already in a relationship. If you're a good person you would do everything you can to cut them off and not have them get in the way of your relationship. Still people do cheat.

When I was 13 years old and she was 14, we were playing hide and seek. We hid together underneath the bed. Her butt was facing me and she accidentally touched my private area with her butt. We both got turned on and started to dry hump. I came and our relationship was broken after that. We saw things as very awkward between us.
Fast forward today when I am 20 years old and she has a boyfriend, she sent me a follow request in instagram. I think she means only family business of course. We both regret what we did. We never talked about it and pretend it didn’t ever happen but deep inside, we knew that we had sexual attraction towards each other which is what ruined our relationship. We were great cousins.