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When I logically lay out statistics and biology as to why promiscuous behavior is toxic to relationships and the individual, the default response is that men are insecure. My response to that is, what's wrong with having some insecurity? I don't know what guy who wouldn't be at least a little insecure dating a girl who has a huge sex history and reputation for putting out for almost anyone. Logically, it makes more sense that they have a higher chance of straying. It's only natural for those insecurities to arise at some point in the relationship, and to suggest that you're supposed to be entirely absent of this insecurity even when your girl has a strong history indicating a higher chance of infidelity seems irrational.

I think I have a unique understanding to the topic given that I've been on both sides. The thing is, I slept around a lot during my college years. I experienced first hand what it was like, and I can personally attest that it's very toxic. When I dated, and girls knew my reputation, I completely understood as to why they had trouble trusting me or if they didn't want to emotionally invest into me. I didn't shame them and force my lifestyle down people's throats expecting acceptance. That's very immature in my opinion.

But concluding, why is it a crime for a woman or man to feel insecure being with someone who statistically has the highest chance of cheating, or straying? Why would it be a crime to be insecure when you're wondering how you compare to his/her huge list? These are very natural responses to promiscuous behavior. No man or woman wants to imagine their life partner being fucked by a ton of strangers who didn't give a shit about them. No man wants to imagine his wife being used as a locker room story about her in her most intimate state. That's degrading.

So I really wanna stop asking these questions because I'm usually dead wrong and end up disappointed but I'm turning 20 here in like 2 months, I'm a virgin, and I've only had one girlfriend who cheated on me and caused me to get bullied even more in highschool

Anyways, tonight after my shift was over a older female coworker of mine that I conversate with sometimes told me that another female coworker of mine said, "I wish awesometjgreen was here" out loud and apparently was looking for me when the shit hit the fan (somebody fucked up and we had to stay overtime). Now this is kinda surprising because most of the time nobody bothers to learn my name, especially the girls my age. They just know me because of my position and uniform. And the only people who know me are the old people that like me because I pick up heavy shit for them or you know... actually do my job.

I have noticed this girl before and she's very pretty, but she's always with this 7ft tall guy that is the literal embodiment of Thanos or some shit. The fucking guy is like a linebacker or some shit and I have to look up at him when I talk to him! I know him because he helps me sometimes and asks me to get things for him because he's just massive and I'm, so short and tiny that I can squeeze into small spaces that he can't.

So is it even worth my time to talk this girl and see if this linebacker/thanos guy is her bf? I kinda don't want to risk my life and to tell the truth I actually avoid talking to her because I don't know if that's her boyfriend or something and I can imagine this guy picking me up and breaking my spine and I just don't want to die 😐. Don't get me wrong he's polite but I just don't want to go down that way. And I told the lady the same thing I'm telling you guys and girls but she thought of I was just "scared to talk to her" 😑. Thanks everyone, seriously though I don't wanna die 😐