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His stance is always this phrase''whoever loves you (me) then loves me''. While it's sweet, he once treated a boyfriend horrible.

In the end even though we didn't end up together with kids (I broke up because it was me that wasn't feeling it anymore while he still was in love), my father realized his mistake but it was too late. Even though he was willing to accept him as part of the family, the guy didn't like my father too much. I think you have a right to not like someone that was hostile towards you for over 2 years and it cost you endless hardwork to get accepted.

That stance shows a fallacy there. He loved me but didn't like nor trust (much less love) my father. And he definitely didn't see my father as his family. Just because your parents finally accept and likes your partner doesn't mean has to feel the same way, esp if they got treated poorly for an extended period of time.

My mother used to meddle too much and gossip bad things about my boyfriend. She literally made others believe he was using me for sex. He talked about him as if he was the worst guy ever. Her best friend at the time (an older woman who was also my friend) died years ago. She died believing he was using me for sex, for my virginity.

The reason he got upset and visited me less was because one day my mother herself said ''don't come, my husband's friend and relatives are coming over for a whole week, you can come some other time''. He close to my house already and he felt excluded, hurt and offended. So he got upset and then my mother got upset at his reaction (him not coming over anymore) and started gossiping endlessly about him. Then she insulted him on my b-day, issued him a false apology over the phone and continued being a fake person for years. His friendship with her was a falsity for years.

Only after her health started getting worst and this pandemic not going away, she started softening her stance and has accepted him by now. I told her the real version, which she questioned why I never spoke up for him. She wouldn't have listened. She only started listening to me now. It took him a long time (years) for him to finally forgive her.

He got mad at me about four weeks ago over a statement I mad. I kept trying to apologize as he ignored me for a few days but we eventually started talking again two weeks later.
I was always mushy a flirty when we talked but he kept insisting we take baby steps. He admitted he was still mad but got mad every time I wanted to talk about. Threatened to block me but then said I could talk as long as I stopped being aggressive.
I have felt like he has played all these games. He insists he is not mad and want to talk to me but he’s not really talking to me. I’m initiating all the conversations. I feel like I’m jumping throu hoops. He’s not as warm as he used to be. He makes me feel like I can’t do anything right since we started talking. Every time I bring up these things he turns everything around on me. He says I’m to flirty, I try to hard, and it’s one thing after another. I ask if I should quit talking to him. He says no all good.
I finally blew up today and told him I was done with his games and never wanted to talk to him again. Since we started talking again he’s treated me like crap... Could he be a narcissist?