Does this guy just want casual sex or an actual date with something more?

[bobalife]

Kind of talking to someone who I wasn’t sure was looking for something casual by our conversation, but he started picking out different sweet or fun date ideas lol. Initially we were supposed to go on a date, but I called it off due to personal things going on in my life last week. We haven’t really spoken too much, maybe due to my lack of communication and he started mirroring me lol. He actually stopped msging me for 3 days, which was weird. Last evening, on Snapchat, he put up a story of him and another girl carving a pumpkin... typically people take it badly, don’t do anything, or get mad... but I’m the opposite, I can be confident and extra because I directly commented on that picture stating “That’s cute. But it woulda been cutier with me 😏” 😂🙃 He message me this morning, “That’s my sister. You should have asked to stab a pumpkin. I’m over here just waiting to do some cute stuff with you 🤷and pick up some new shoes and pants ” (the last part is a semi joke because he always tell me I look stylish and can be a designer by my taste). I was busy throughout the day catching up with friends from out of city. So I finally replied late afternoon I was down, what days he is thinking of, and if the date goes well I’ll help with clothes/shoes 😂 He replied back stating he’s busy most days but can make some time on the weekend. Asked if I wanted a cute or pumpkin date. He also added a really seductive joke about pants and shoes 😂😅 I’m so confuse... does he actually want a real date or just looking for casual sex? Because it sounds like he would wanna make time by choosing weeekend > weekday yet wanna do something cute, fun together... but he added something sexy as well. So I’m a lost kitty 🙃 Any good advices will help, so I know what I’m doing in these type of situations 😂😅

[AlexanderAnttila]

Might be that your initial cancelling of the date rubbed him the wrong way. Maybe he thought you were making excuses to not go on a date with him and so he distanced himself, but then when you started to once again show interest he eventually got over it and now genuinely wants a "pumpkin date".

[bobalife]

That’s true.. he did told me he wasn’t sure if it’s even going to happen, if I’m just playing hard to get, yet he was being understanding why I cancelled the date for personal things going on. That’s what happened like you said lol 😅 and I feel maybe my slow responses (5-6 hrs lol) don’t help but I’ve just been really busy with friends & family. Well he asked if I wanted a cute or pumpkin date. I mentioned what cute ideas he has? And how I might be free this weekend (didn’t specify I prefer Sunday and need to check on my agendas). But he hasn’t reply... what do you mean by “pumpkin date”? Like he only literally wanna carve a pumpkin with me? 😅 lol

[AlexanderAnttila]

He might be an impatient fellow. A lot of guys want things to progress swiftly with their romantic interests. And many might be greatly annoyed at slow texters ;P

Yes. I mean that he wants to sit there with you for five hours straight and carve pumpkins for the entire garden while he speaks of fond memories of Halloweens past.

No I'm joking. I'm sure he wants a date.

[bobalife]

Lol ah... well he hasn’t reply to me all morning 😅 I guess he lost interest? I’m not sure if my response was bad to him or he wanted more chasing.

Lmao you’re funny, but yeah it did seemed like he really wanted a date with me before...

[AlexanderAnttila]

Aaw, sorry to hear that. Hard to say what goes through his mind. It could be either of what you suggested or that he's simply getting back at you for being slow by also being slow in replying.

He should want a date with you. Any man would be lucky to!

[bobalife]

It’s a bit disappointing realizing I was looking forward to the date. But I would want someone who put more effort and be honest. I know I’m also guilty of not showing enough interest; lesson learn.

Aws, thanks for your kind words 😊

[bklynbadboy1]

Listen all you have to do is this. If you want to go on a date with him do it but TAKE YOUR TIME. Don't rush anything and don't assume cause obviously he's keeping his options open. He's definitely dating multiple girls and the reason you know that is because he posted himself on a date and still begging you for a date. He didn't contact you for three days cause he's juggling other girls. You feel me. There's no smoke and mirrors here its right in your face so be careful

[bobalife]

You think he’s bluffing about the other girl being his sister? Yeah I’m sure he’s talking to other girls like most guys are, but it’s okay I’ll dipped if I’m not feeling it

[bklynbadboy1]

If you do that you should be okay

[bklynbadboy1]

Thanks for the MHO

[Truthatanycost]

99% of guys will be looking for sex. Whether he takes you on a sweet date before, doesn't change much. I'd bet money on it...

[bobalife]

Haha should I asked him or... wait for the date to ask what is he looking for? Well he’s really hot and handsome, but I don’t wanna waste my precious time on a date if he has no intent but casual sex lol.

[bobalife]

Well this is gag, so you can bet on MHO wins on here... prolly not money 😂😜

[Truthatanycost]

There is no point asking anyone what they want, because they can say what they feel at the time, say what you want to hear, or they may not even know themselves. You don't need to worry about what he wants if you have strict boundaries. Problems arise because people have poor boundaries, lack of discernment and lack of self discipline and self control.

[Bismarck_96]

Yeah I agree with thruth guy 😂 my ship has sunk and forgot to give orders to abandon ship 😂 in other words funny water kicked in

[SunnySri]

Mam, you can go on the date like a normal date and if it looks like he is only interested in sex you can leave if you want.

[bobalife]

Thanks 😊

[SunnySri]

You are welcome mam.

[Iamcoming]

He can want love and sex together

[bobalife]

Wouldn’t that be causal or no? Lol

[msc545]

Just ask him what he wants...

[bobalife]

Is it weird to ask before going on a date or better during the date?

[msc545]

During the date.

[bobalife]

Thank you!😊 I guess I shall just ignore his sexy comment then and proceed with date plans? 😂

[msc545]

Yes very good idea!

[bobalife]

Thanks 😊 well I did just that asked what kind of cute date ideas and how I might be free the weekend while ignoring his sexy comment lol. He hasn’t reply. If he doesn’t, I’m just gonna forget him and not going to give it another chance if he comes back later. It’s unattractive when a guy takes a while too long.

[msc545]

Good idea!

[Jamie05rhs]

I can't really tell. Not enough information.

[berserk945]

Im no help with this one.