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As I grow older and older, I am realizing that there aren't such thing as bad or good people. There's just confused people and hurt people.

I grew up with a father who wasn't really there, and a mother who was very critical, also really great at physical and verbal abuse! I had to always let my siblings win and do everything she told me to do (even if it was bad or not good for me) or I would get condemned. She had low self esteem and so she beat us up a lot and called us all a lot of names, and always put curses on us. She always assumed we hated her and that we were horrible, evil, ugly kids!

me: believed that I am worthless, wants to hide from society. not able to feel love from anyone.

younger sister: believes that doing bad things to get attention is better than no attention, continues to do bad things to this day (cheating, stealing someone's husband, child out of wedlock at 17 etc), she gets her self worth from when people pay attention to her from doing bad things! she gets angry when people don't worship her, because she gets her self worth from people wanting to do everything for her as if she is a queen!

younger brother: defends himself, beats up the mom uses the dad and mom and abuses them because he feels they deserve it for calling him names and abusing him!!

middle brother: lives up to the image his mom had of him... is a drunk and spending money like crazy, has 30000 in cc debt, blames everyone for his problems and refuses to talk to anyone period!

oldest brother: married a wife who is like his mom, abuses and uses him... and he thinks this is love