how many of us Ladies have faced an emotional crisis with our Boyfriend/ Husband, sometimes even Brother or Father ...
YES they have one thing in common ...
THEY ARE MEN !!
Let's try to understand that Men (attention please) DO HAVE EMOTIONS...
But they show it differently ... or basically THEY DON'T SHOW IT AT ALL, but this does not mean that they don't have them ...
But why would I as a female know?
Well...I had a little help from my Male amigos on G@G because asking this question today on G@G, inspired me to write this MyTake, and you will see the comments that made ME think a lot, and i personally learned a lot from them, and I HOPE that you ladies will also learn something, and any additional comment to this is welcome..
DISCLAIMER: I would like to inform you that i have the consent of every G@Gster below to post their comments. I don't steal without asking (this sounded so wrong but OK you got my point)
So let's take NOTES ladies here we go:
Dargil Age: 26
Because many of us are far less verbal and don't want to stutter. mumble or sound like idiots.
Also, I think women are far more emotional by design.
Imhotep99 Age: 18
Because they do not want others to think they are less masculine and less manly.
Piluex Age: 29
Lets be honest here, most girls say they want men to open up... but once they actually get to deal with a men opening up and showing emotion, they realize they really don't like that at all, get turned off and think you're pathetic/weak/useless/clingy/all of the above.
coolbreeze Age: 33
Because we have big egos and it makes men seem weak and less masculine that way. We have to stay tough for the girl.
Cosytoasty Age: 28
It's because VERY few women are capable of handling a guy's emotions without being overwhelmed and turned off. Women don't want to be a mother to their partners.
RedThread Age: 29
Because it usually isn't considered masculine. We all want to do it but we certainly won't share with other guys. One of a few ways traditional concepts of masculinity can be kind of toxic to men.
ThisDudeHere Age: 21
In my opinion being seen as less of a man is probably the biggest reason. I tend to avoid opening up at all costs. I don't want to trouble other people with my own problems. Those are mine to carry.
ak666 Age: 35
One of the reasons I think some guys don't express their emotions very well is because they're too emotional. At least that was the case for me when I was younger. I became much better at it when I became more self-disciplined and started thinking about the best ways to improve my relationships instead of just acting on my emotional impulses.
FatherJack Age: 45
We are less emotional by nature & also social conditioned " society " sees men being too emotional as weak , BOTH genders are ruthless towards men that are deemed weak , even if they really are strong. Evolutionary biology at work , men used to do all the hunting , this is why men are more detached ( I am VERY much like this , as a FT working single dad , it's a good job too !! ) & also talk much less than women.
Genuinely, I do agree with all of them, it might not make sense to some of us, but i think we should just respect their points of view and accept that MEN are just MEN and they don't really want to loose their label and pride by being all emotional.
If you ask me, it's better this way.
This is why relationships are more exciting, the differences between two genders, or between two different emotions, carry relationships on different seas, and it all depends on how we navigate ourselves.
Sometimes they make us cry, sometimes they make us laugh, sometimes they make us just question everything, BUT if they want to show their emotions, they show it through actions - which do speak louder than words as we all know.
Well at least something don't you think.. ;)
Bless you all