I realize that a lot of men feel like they can't express themselves to or in front of females because they are afraid of looking like less of a man. Emotions don't determine masculinity. All humans go through some kind of emotion and changes. If you don't have emotion, you're not a man! Actually, you're not even human. You're a robot.
I like a passionate man, which means that I want my man to be in touch with his emotions. My fiancé is a very passionate man, and this is one of many things I love about him. Maybe you're saying well I have emotion but I just can't express it. Well, he usually expresses his in two ways: physical love or art/music. He's very talented in art and musical instruments. A lot of times he will just play songs. For example, if he's feeling mad he will play his electric guitar with an intense rock song. You get the idea.
Well he also expresses his emotions physically, and this is what makes me want him and love him so much. It's his true self that he's not afraid to show. This is beneficial in bed too. ;) It makes the experience passionate, spontaneous, and amazing.
Physically expressing your emotions means it's okay to cry. And I want to mention one moment that I'll never forget.
I went back to see Justin last March. His great-uncle, whom Justin had been close with as Justin is a family-oriented person, had died and had a funeral a few days before I arrived in Atlanta. The first time Justin and I got to be alone the same day I arrived, we went out and walked in the forest behind his grandfather's house. We sat down by a tree and he held me and kissed me, but he stopped at a point and just sat there still. I looked at him and could see that something was wrong, he wasn't even looking at me, and I asked if he was alright and held his face, and I barely got to look into his eyes before he tried to speak but began crying. And I don't mean shedding a few tears. My fiancé was emotionally wrecked at that moment; he was crying. And this touched me. I was able to hold him, not make him speak, let him cry into my shoulder, hold him tight, wipe his tears when he finished, and tell him it's okay. Before holding me his first instinct was to use his hands to cover his face, but with the way we were sitting he couldn't, his arms were around my waist, so he wrapped them around me tighter and he automatically fell his face into my shoulder. And he cried. Of course I was able to make him feel better and we had an amazing day. It brought us closer.
I don't know why so many of you men think this is a bad thing or makes you less of a man. It shows passion and it shows that you're not a robot. A man with no emotion is not a human in my book. Yeah, don't cry because somebody takes the last cookie. But showing emotion shows that you're happy with who you are, you aren't insecure about it, and it brings you closer to whoever you express them to.
This is part of the reason Justin and I are getting married. I love a man who has nothing to hide. I love his masculinity and his openness. The two don't counteract. He's masculine, he's not insecure about being a human, he's passionate, and he's very honest with himself and me. And face it: we're all humans and we all have emotions. If you choose to hide them, that's you and your insecurities. You can't grow close to people like that and they can't grow close to you. Also, everybody knows humans have emotions, so acting like you don't have any only makes you look ignorant or stuck-up, sometimes both. Face your fears, stop being insecure, and start being honest with yourself and others. Having no emotion makes you LESS of a man. More of a walking robot.