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I talk to my girl friends about it, and they think I'm trying to hard to get into a relationship. I really just crave an emotional and physical relationship, since I've never had one and I'm a serious romantic. But I'm also a tomboy, and so I can't flirt at all to get one, (well I can but I flirt like a dude.) I tried getting one of them to help me, but they think I'm wasting my time to try to put in effort to get a guy I'm interested in, and its not like I'm limiting it to a small circle; I'm willing to be open-minded to plenty of guys to at least go on one date with but I never have any luck for some reason. I don't think they understand, because they tell me I shouldn't be trying to get a relationship because I'm fine on my own, but then one of them has a girlfriend and the other always has a guy to sleep with or date so like they don't get what its like to not be able to get a guy easy. Do you guys think I should just let high school pass and not even date one guy or should I keep trying even while my friends are being hypocritical and telling me not to?

Personally this is something I wouldn't ever tolerate from a husband, not even once and definitely not with kids involved. I think it's even worse staying for the kids because they will grow up thinking that's a normal method to solve arguments, that it's ok to lash out if your partner stresses you out and it can impact their overall views on a relationship/marriage.


I've seen and heard how it used to get horrible whenever my parents argued. In the beginning, my mother would only get verbal (a combination of nonstoppable insults, screamings and tantrums) but my father would always be the first one to get physical too fast. Many years later and it became mutual, she would hit back at some point and then a couple few times it was just her getting physical.

They used to get over it within days (then pretend nothing happened for my sake) and 1-3 months later, it would happened again and again. Currently, they don't love each other at all but decided to still stay mainly for the sake of my teenaged brother.
Given that in mind, do you think a marriage can survive 1 single episode of violence after an argument turns badly? If it were just 1 and not multiple times like my parents' marriage.