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I’m going to try to sum this up as much as I can: I met this guy who’s a 2nd year law student on a dating site a couple months ago. He asked me on the first date, went well, I asked him for the second. Things were fine, he’d text me good morning almost every morning and check in throughout the day.

My issue stemmed from the fact that he hasn’t made an effort to see me in about a month but still texts me everyday (except one night a couple weeks ago, during a trip with his close friends, he was drunk and texted me that he wanted me there with him... turned into some dirty talk on both of our ends but we left it at that and didn’t bring up sex again)

Another issue is that when texting each other, I’d feel like I’m the one carrying the conversation. I believe relationships can’t be built on texts alone and honestly I’d rather FaceTime or call. I asked him to call me once, he said he would, but ended up not doing so.

After the second date, I felt like he was kinda pulling away. We’re both going into finals (I’m finishing my bachelor’s). My whole thing is, I get that law school is super busy. I know that especially around this time of the year, there’s not always time to hang out. I already pointed it out once when I felt he was pulling away and he apologized and explained what was going on with school.

I’m not sure why, but at some point last week, I had enough. He was days away from starting his finals and our conversations were turning into small talk sporadically. I just haven’t responded to him at all and it’s been days.

Part of me feels bad “ghosting” just because I know he’s been super stressed school and finals, and maybe I shouldn’t take this personally. The other part of me feels like he’s really not interested (I’ve felt this way for a while, we’re also both still active on the dating site) so it’s better for me to just walk away instead of waiting for him to do so. What do you think I should do?

Seen this guy for a while, we speak for hours every day on the phone, we have a connection like I’ve never had before, like a best friend but more.

Haven’t had sex yet because we wanted to wait, cause he was sexually coerced & abused by this girl who then made a false allegation against him when he eventually rejected & left her, he had sworn off sex for life until he met me. He’s currently waiting for results of the investigation which has put him in a depression and struggle with trust. But he told me I’m the best thing that’s ever happened to him, that I repaired him and brought him hope and trust back in people, that he’s grateful and so lucky to know me.

He was supposed to see me next week and was super excited, but today all of the sudden he cancelled because his mental health has hit rock bottom the past week & work is piling up, he said he knows if he sees me he’ll catch major feelings (which I think he already kind of has), and isn’t ready for a relationship and needs to see a therapist. He doesn’t want me to be his emotional crutch (he’s been really open about his feelings) and wants to man up and take his problems on himself and said it wasn’t fair on me to take on all his downs.

I asked if he needed a break and he said yes and that he’s going to take a break from social media to recharge and focus on himself and work. He said he’s really upset and wished circumstances were different and that he’s really gonna miss me. I told him I’d give him space and wait for him when he’s ready. I’m just worried he won’t contact me again because he doesn’t want to bother me. I don't know what to do cause I’ve caught feelings he’s such an amazing guy and I don’t want to lose what we have & can’t see myself with anyone else. He was just such a breath of fresh air from a series of failed dates and relationships, & felt like I found something truly real for once.

Do you think he’ll get back to me? Is it worth waiting for? How long should I wait before moving on?

I’ve been seeing a med student for ~a month and a half. I completely understand that their schedule is busy- I’m also in school but not as intense as them. I asked a couple of weeks ago what they thought about us, just to get an idea of where he is.

He said that he hadn’t reflected on it much because he’s been busy with school. To clarify, I asked if he wanted to stop things or see where we end up, and he chose the latter. Essentially, I gave him an out but he didn’t take it.

He drunk texted me and brought up s*x for the first time a few days ago (he went to visit his friends in another state and they got hammered). I went along with it because honestly, I thought about it and kinda wanted it too.

Right after that, it’s like he fell off the face of the earth. The next day after (I guess drunkenly asking for booty call), we chatted as usual throughout the day. I then asked him to call me (nothing serious, he’s never called me before and I just like talking rather than texting). He said he would as soon as he finished up in the hospital. I didn’t hear back from him for a couple of days.

So I finally texted him to see what was going on and he apologized and said that things were getting kinda crazy with school. Which I get with final exams coming.

The thing is, does this sound like a legitimate excuse or is it him kinda ghosting me? I gave him an out literally about a week or two ago which he didn’t take. Do guys act weird like this after bringing up sex? And if he is ghosting, why didn’t he just take the out I offered and why has he always made the effort to initiate talking good morning text almost everyday, except a few days?

I’ve been seeing a med student for ~a month and a half. I completely understand that their schedule is busy- I’m also in school but not as intense as them. I asked a couple of weeks ago what they thought about us, just to get an idea of where he is.

He said that he hadn’t reflected on it much because he’s been busy with school. To clarify, I asked if he wanted to stop things or see where we end up, and he chose the latter. Essentially, I gave him an out but he didn’t take it.

He drunk texted me and brought up s*x for the first time a few days ago (he went to visit his friends in another state and they got hammered). I went along with it because honestly, I thought about it and kinda wanted it too.

Right after that, it’s like he fell off the face of the earth. The next day after (I guess drunkenly asking for booty call), we chatted as usual throughout the day. I then asked him to call me (nothing serious, I just like talking rather than texting). He said he would as soon as he finished up in the hospital. I didn’t hear back from him for a couple of days.

So I finally texted him to see what was going on and he apologized and said that things were getting kinda crazy with school. Which I get with final exams coming.

The thing is, does this sound like a legitimate excuse or is it him kinda ghosting me? I gave him an out literally about a week or two ago which he didn’t take. Do guys act weird like this after bringing up sex? And if he is ghosting, why didn’t he just take the out I offered and why has he always made the effort to initiate talking good morning text almost everyday, except a few days?

I was seeing this guy for about a month. We met on Hinge. We’re both med students in different schools in diff states (next to each other) so we have busy schedules. We have gone on a couple of dates (he initiated the first one, I initiated the second). He would initiate texting almost every morning to see what I had going on for the day/check in.

A day or two after date 2, it seemed like he was a little distant? He didn’t text me for two days so I asked what was up (he was helping a roommate move and went to see his parents). He went right back to texting me as usual. I did ask him a little while back what he thought about him and I. He said he’s been busy with school so he hasn’t taken time to think it out but he wanted to see where things go. Also, no mention of sex from his end at all, until:

Here’s where things get weird: one weekend, he sorta sent a booty call message to me (post exam celebration with his friends so he had a few drinks). I played along because honestly, I was kinda interested. The next morning, he seemed kinda distant. I told him to call me (I missed the sound of his voice) and he said he would after he finished a shift in the hospital. Haven’t heard from him since and it’s been a few days.

Is he ghosting me? Or should I reach out? He’s usually the one to reach out and will even double text if he hasn’t heard from me but nothing so far.

And if it he is ghosting, why make the effort to initiate communication with someone everyday for a month? If for sex, why would he talk to me for a month before bringing it up?