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You can go through my previous questions if you want to get a better sense of the situation, but here's the SparkNotes version:

I was talking with this girl that I reconnected with after college, for about a year. Due to a general lack of communication, and what I can only assume is some mental illness issue (yes, she has confirmed to me that she suffers from at least 2 mental illnesses), this girl and I shared a hot-cold something-more-than-a-friendship, that she has recently cut-off when I called her out on the general disregard that she had shown me. THIS WHOLE SITUATION JUST SEEMED SO OUT OF CHARACTER FROM THE WOMAN I REMEMBER!

Her ex boyfriend, while not in the picture, had stayed in touch with her for a while after their break up. They tried to do the whole "just friends" thing, and I assume that she was basically treating him as the significant man in her life. Apparently my former friend was under the impression that they might reconnect as a couple, but then never did, and he has since moved on and is dating someone new.

In hindsight, she really treated me like an after thought. I sort of justified her behavior by telling myself that she wasn't spending as much time connecting with me because of the greater emotional requirement than talking to her platonic friends, but now that she has publicly humiliated me by telling my friends to get me to leave her along and made it clear that we were never in any kind of a relationship (despite what I believed to be some pretty firm flirting); I am curious to know if any of this was real, or if she straight up played me, or maybe even if her mental illness is causing some wacky nonsense. We are long distance, and she's saying that my messages were scaring her.

You have to understand that this was really sudden and got really ugly.

I want to reach out to her ex, to ask if this kind of behavior is/was typical from her, or if I'm an isolated incident, but I don't know if that would be appropriate. What do y'all think?

My father and I recently sat down and had a not too pleasant discussion about ther women in my life. He says he wants me to be more open and talkative about my dating life, like i had been with one specific ex. I tried explaining that I've never had a real connection with any girlfriend except her and naturally have only had one relationship last longer than a few months, and it was also her[nearly 2 years]. I tried to tell him that if I see a female being in my life for a decent amount of time, she will no doubt definitely be introduced to my family, and if not, she won't. Well apparently one of my close friends of famil members have been telling him about someone I have supposedly been dating for months and he's upset trying to pick my brain about her and why i won't talk about her. I tried to tell him that i do in fact like her, but we haven't been dating at all and of course he doesn't believe me. My thing is, if you hate being lied to, and know i hate being called a liar, it would make more sense to trust me and what im telling you from a first person standpoint rather than going through this game of telephone through friends and family to figure it out. So through the talk he's asking questions of what he thinks he 'knows'and I'm denying them, which is only making him upset and me as well being called a liar. He said he wants us to grow closer, not further apart and my solution is to keep my love life far away from him, because once he gets in his head what he 'believes' to be the truth, it doesn't matter what i tell him its automatically, 'you're right here lying to my face'. I only see talking about it more pissing us both off more and have elected to just keep him in the dark, he can just deal at this point, better than us both getting pissed off and upset about some lies he was told by someone else that he chooses to believe over his own son.