Search Results: being used for sex

So I’ve been texting/video calling this guy for 6 months during lockdown. We’ve managed to see each other a few times after. We’ve kissed and made out one time.

Although we never really defined what we are, I think we’re kinda friends with benefits even though when we interact he doesn’t really treat me like a friends with benefits, he’s super caring and respectful and actually tells me stuff about his life. Plus doesn’t press me into sex at all.

He says he really loves my company and is impassioned by me; he also said once he couldn’t help but fall for me. But he’s very inconsistent and sometimes we can go from texting everyday to a week without texting and he leads a super busy life and all.

So here’s the deal,
It was my birthday at some point during lockdown and I told him a couple of days before and he said he would love to give me a hug and wished me a good day. But when the real day came he saw my stories about my birthday and said nothing!! 4 days later he texted me acknowledging my birthday by asking if I had a good day and saying he hadn’t been well cause someone he used to know died…but still…

His birthday is coming soon but we haven’t texted in a week. We’re suppose to hang out but he’s very busy. So I’m wondering whether I should text him happy birthday or reply to one of his stories and say “Is it your birthday? Hope you had a nice day x” OR whether I shouldn’t text anything at all? Oh and actually he never mentioned his birthday to me at any given point so I’m not so sure I should and I feel if I do I’m chasing after him a little.

Thing with this guy is I don’t want to get used to me always being there for him cause I won’t be! Sometimes I have a feeling he takes me for granted also I’ve added him to my close friends list on insta but for privacy motives.

And maybe if I don’t wish him happy birthday it might serve as a wake up call for him

I saw someone else post about her experience earlier and she’s close to my age, about guys friendzoning her. I can’t say my experience has been any better, I get guys interested in me but I don’t like them back. There’s sometimes no connection or just something about them that doesn’t peak my interest. But the ones I do like, they’re not interested or just want sex. I’m not the casual type so I don’t wanna be used as a booty call plus I really don’t want to settle with someone else just for the sake of not being alone. I am not one to usually message guys first, all my experiences except one time were a result of the guys msging me first. I am not lucky like other women who message first, I don’t do it often but I really feel like that shouldn’t be make or break. When I did message first, it didn’t go anywhere except one time and that guy was was a dick🤷🏻‍♀️