Search Results: finding the right person

Looking for diverse opinions and discussion.

I'm in a comitted relationship right now and feel like being faithful and honest are some of the best virtues you can have, but I've always carried this weight of doubt in comitted relationships. It's not that I have the desire to stray, I always just feel like one person is going to lose interest after a while or things will go stale. It makes me wonder what the point of monogamy is. I feel like if faithfulness and comittment weren't so heavily emphasized in society, people would love selflessly.

For example, it's 'human' but also selfish for you to get jealous if your girlfriend/boyfriend is hanging out or talking to another person you deem a threat. It implies you don't really love them if you don't truly want them to be happy, which may or may not be with you. You want to cut them off from potentially finding another partner that could make them happier because they make you happy.

My views in life lean more on the conservative side but I do get philosophical from time to time and question what the point of relationships are or if love even exists.

Don't mean to sound one-sided and I know both genders have disadvantages in life but I think when it comes to time and commitment, we get affected more and have more to lose if not choosing carefully. For instance it's already hard (but not impossible) finding a man that wants to commit. If all we wanted was dating around and easy sex, that's easy but some of us don't want that.

If we do the whole living together as couple (I never done that and will never do it) while never talking about where this is leading or believing it will lead somewhere one day, the man can spend years of our time and then more than likely that relationship won't last. Then he walks away and we have to start all over. Still, those are years we'll never get back and there is a limited time for us to form a family.

Also, if not choosing right or thinking we had the right person and still get pregnant (assuming the woman decided to keep the baby), the guy can bail out if he's a total a jerk.