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Everything slowly changes when you live together. Once you are living together, many of the things we do to be polite seem to fall by the wayside. It may be quite common place to see your girlfriend sitting on the toilet or to hear your boyfriend blowing his nose. The veils slowly drop and you see the unfiltered version of the person you thought was Mr. or Ms. Right. They may say things that they previously would have not expressed. They may still be Mr. or Ms. Right but you are obviously seeing them differently.

There are challenges in getting accustomed to seeing the same person every morning and every night. What is your biggest concern about a long term relationship or marriage? What do you think is the most likely potential problem that you will encounter?

I'm not here to discourage anyone from marriage and kids. If you desire either, I'd urge you to turn back now unless you have at least 2 of the following: An open mind, common sense, a thick e-skin.

it seems that most people (especially women!!!) put a very high priority or importance on marriage and kids. Most of them see it like an iceberg: You see the top 10% of what it is above the surface of the ocean but do not consider the other 90% beneath the surface.

Furthermore with the economy collapsing at an accelerating rate, to maintain a complete family at full standard living (no chronic diseases and other discomforts for everyone) in a middle class family an income of near 6 figures is required. Most people don't earn that much. The poverty line threshold is also rising as a result of inflation (at least in my experience first hand). Overpopulation contributes to these problems.

so you build yourself up and then forfeit everything you have, materialistic and abstract for marriage and kids (which has also no warranty of turning out to be what you wanted it to be).
and with conditions like these in our society and planet, where we even the most ambitious and hardworking young adults can't really maintain for ourselves fully due to low finances.

even our previous generation members keep telling us sometimes how the finances/resources were much easier obtainable or the salaries (or rather the value of the money back then) were much higher than they are today.

so due to these hardships and circumstances it's making less sense to bring more kids into here and legally chaining yourself to another person you both supposedly were approved to "be in love indeed". is marriage and kids overrated?