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I am an introvert. I am not extremely shy, but I am not very social either. I dislike small talk a lot and find it often ridiculous, I don't like parties and discos, I don't like "going out" unless I can find some meaningful way of entertainment when I do. I dislike mean gossip and people avoid to do that around me. The topics that interest me are often -me being a "smartass"- or a -me being a nerd-. Most of all I enjoy spending time with couple of my best friends who I can relax with and actually have fun with. I like martial arts and basketball, COD, literature, chemistry, physics and mathematics, Arcade games, rollerblading, drawing, cooking, a shonen anime I've been watching since I was 7 etc.

I don't consider, sitting at the bar unable to hear my friends, or have bunch of guys who are a little drunk hit on me, entertaining, but it seems that in the place I live, I am the only one.

I can often even be lazy when it comes to my social life because there are only a handful of people I am actually close to, so I just don't feel like socializing when it comes to the semi-anonymous crowd.

But sometimes my way of life can feel lonely because my close friends are extroverts and have many other friends I don't really like to hang out with, but I have a wish to expand my group of friends and to fall in love.. There are people who invited me to go out several times to some social gatherings. I found those people to be nice and many shared some of my interests, but those social circles also had some members that annoyed me quite a bit.

I tried and managed to get out of half of the invitations hoping they will invite me again when I feel more up to it, or when I at least don't consider it ridiculously boring.

Naturally (which I didn't foresee), they didn't invite me as often, some never again, because they presumed I hate them, while the truth is that I don't even know them enough to form some sort of opinion and I was either not so much into the activity they proposed, was being lazy about it or actually did have something better I wanted/had to do.

So I'm asking you:

Will a person like me ever be able to have more friends?

How do I find them and bring them into my world?

How do I bring myself to enter theirs?

How do I let them know I don't hate THEM, but just don't feel like doing something they are doing?

Will I ever be able to date a guy who is like me in this regard? (Do they exist and how do I meet them)

Or an extrovert who can stand my way of life?

(Note: All guys I had feelings for in the past were shy, not so much introverted. I am shy too when it comes to love, so neither one had the courage to say something. Later I would often find out they did like me. I am not proud, I am just VERY cowardly when it comes to asking a guy out.)

Would/Could YOU ever like a girl like me, or adapt to her if you are different?

Thank you for answering any of these questions. =)l