What are the best places a shy guy can meet girls in college?

[Anonymous]

I am shy so I don't really go to parties or anything so I don't really know were or how to meet girls still.

[WhatsHeThinking]

from my expierences at UofO the Commongrounds ( where the food court is) was pretty popular. How come you chose not to party?

i don't want you to get the idea that I'm saying that's your only shot. ist just the easy was to let loose and unwind. Girls are going to be a lot easier to talk to for the first time when you are around a bunch of people. there are lots of things to occupy the two of you. You and the girl of your choosing can mingle with other groups of people. If you find it difficult to find anything to say, immediatly people watch. sounds crazy. I know. " look at her and say "Hey look at that guy" "and point out something funny about him. The goal is to make her laugh. If you can make a girl laugh she already wants to spend more time with you. Once you got her laughing, see if she is sending any vibes that she's interested. YOU HAVE TO seem overly confident. A lot of girls are insecure, and when they spot a guy who is overly confident and bold there turned on. If you talk quietly, and mumble or forget what you were saying (I know there's all these exceptions. I don't go by them but I understand them just because females do that. I know shy guys, I have many shy friends. Half of them are pretty good looking, nice respectable guys, the only thing that makes them less desireably is the quiet shy aspect. we want confident guys that can not only show us a good time but laughing at what we say, smiling at us when you look our way. saying their name constantly is a plus. I've dated my boyfriend now for 2 years and to this day I hear him say my name and it sends goosebumps down my arms. because iam so use to hearing him call me babe, hearing him address me that way was alluring.

If you've ever dreamed you could gain up the courage to do something crazy, fun, exciting, dangerous around a bunch of people. or even just that girl. gain up that courage and just do it already. I bet you have it in you and you'll be so happy you finally let loose and stopped caring what happens next.. if she for some reason turns you donw DO NOT give up, there are so many worth while girls that are lookign for a nice guy like yourself..were not all man eating she devils :) just me!

[Dollface-86]

I mean if you don't like socializing with people then you are pretty much screwed. You don't have to go to big parties with hundreds of people that are wasted. But hanging out with friends, going to get togethers, and doing activities are how you meet people. Grocery store, coffee shop, get together, party, resaurant/bar, library, or maybe a school sponsered club. Just make sure you guys are on the same page and have the same lifestyle. I started seeing this guy but 7 days a week he was content with being at home. Always wanted to order in or get dvd's and stay at home. I like to go to the movies, rock concerts, art shows,indoor rock climbing and going to bars, clubs, and parties. I like to be at home sometimes but I also like to get out and do things. I ended up breaking up with him. So just make sure that your lifestyles kinda match up.

[Mistywrites]

I am in college as well, and think shy guys are among the best and nicest guys. I am not alone in this opinion either. Many girls prefer the shy guy, partly because he is not a jerk, and partially because he is a challenge. I am currently interested in one in my algebra class, so I speak from experience. You just need to look around. Maybe you have a girl in a class that you like. If so, flirt with her. Use eye contact, or smile. If she reciprocates, then approach her. You coul even start off with a netral conversaiton about the teacher, homework or the class, anything to get the ball rolling.

[Asker]

It is hard to show interest though.

[roadkingp]

Everygirl likes the shy guy, but when he approaches her they shoo him away like a dog with no respect. It is better to be an asshole and dominate girls cause they like to be dominated.

[PinkFloydian]

Hey,

I answered another post about meeting girls in college and here is what I came up with, hope you find it useful:

There are many approaches to meeting women in college just be creative. Learn to play a guitar, sit in the middle area of your university where everyone walks by, start strumming some chords. Join some club like save the trees or something. Meeting through friends is the best way, just make friends and meet through them. Join sport intramural, sign up for the singles teams and meet there. Buy a Frisbee, toss around with a friend and ask if they want to play. Do proactive things in the university center. If you are desperate enough get a puppy that you walk through campus. What I did: Grow long hair down to your shoulders than braid custom beads into your hair, in other words dress like you want to dress not like everybody else and girls will come talk to you. Volunteer for your local radio, they can set you up to promote at concerts and shows, great place to meet cool down to earth girls. Get an interesting vehicle, a friend of mine used to go around his campus on an electrical scooter with a lime green helmet, lots of women on the campus used to initiate conversation with him. Van Wilder used a golf cart. Join the stoner circles and share the joint, you'll get invited to parties. If it is snowing build a super cool statue or a fort, that will attract a lot of attention. If your university has hills bust out the old sled and go sledding with friends. In a nutshell, just have fun around campus and express yourself and you will meet women.

So don't lump yourself in the "only classes and clubs" category. Get some confidence, be yourself, express your interests, take some initiative and go after them. Shyness is not permanent you can choose to change it, a big step is to accept who you are and be proud of it.

[sonic241928]

Awesome and encouraging post man. I'm a shy college guy myself, who wants to meet girls, but with little to no "presence" on campus. And go figure, I'm a musician and a writer, lol...guess I need to get out there more. Best to luck to you, me and the OP.

[lateralus]

I don't know man, not to detract, but the guitar bit sounds a somewhat contrived.

[sonic241928]

Could be I guess, especially if you're just doing it for the attention, but I think his point is more about being active and visibly a part of the social scene...

[PinkFloydian]

I mean, I'm a musician myself and I hate when guys cookie cut the guitar to impress girls. But I'm more encouraging fun exciting behavior and expressing yourself instead of worrying about what's cool and how to act cool. In other words, confidence, which is what girls are ultimately attracted to. Appreciate the kind words sonic, if your a musician and a writer be proud of it, you have talents people dream about!

[tex151]

Being creative will work, but be careful, how many guys do you see playing the guitar on campus, lots and lots, most can't even carry a tune, if you look and act like a stoner guess what you will attract stoners, they are refured to by most woman as losers. Sure some women are stoners but not the hot ones. Dress how you want to dress without trying to hard, in other words don't look like you just mowed a yard. Smell nice look decent and you shouldnt have a problem.

[tex151]

You have more that just one problem going on here my friend, first off your shy, ok big deal get over it anyone can, take a public speaking class. But that's not your problem, your making excuses and some of these people are giving pretty good advice. You keep saying your shy and can't talk to women, I don't know why that is, it's not like women are new to this world. This is what you need to do, grow some balls and actually talk to a girl, and since you have no expericence doing that, you will crash and burn, get hurt and go home crying.

Now instead of saying that's it I am done, you need to say what did I do wrong, and then you need to find another girl and try it again. You will fail at this, but the good news is your in college surrounded by women, so try try again. Trust me the more you get rejected the better you will be at getting women, dude I learned on my own how to get girls and ya I failed a few times, but I didn't give up, and now getting a girls is a piece of cake, so stop complaing and do something about it, because if your don't you will never get a gf, simple as that.

[Asker]

I want to avoid getting rejected though, I have low enough self confidence as it as I don't want it to take any more hits.

[tex151]

Avoiding rejection is your first step to failure. Your going to get rejected deal with it and move on. I got rejected a few times and now since I don't care about rejection, girls want me to go to their houses all the time, to you guessed it have sex. I normally date like five girls at a time, not relationships just going on dates with them and other things.

[ryanontario]

honestly its so easy to meet girls at college but anyways here are your best bets

- library , talk to the girls there , say the one siting beside you at the computer , why she isn't going to leave if you try and talk to her cause she has no where to go and is likely going to enjoy chatting a bit anyways , I meet a lot of hot girls this way and almost ended up dating and sleeping with some of my library random girls oddly enough

- classes , a great place to meet girls , I meet like most of the hot girls I knew in college in classes I had with them and found it was a good place to meet them and they'd actually talk to me there and stuff

places to avoid for now

- bar scene , your not ready for it my friend

- gym , same not enough confidence yet for this one

- cafeteria , tough place I found avoid it fort now

[shabudah]

I think you should write down a list of five things that interest you the most and regulary involve yourself in them. You will naturally find an interest that makes you happy and confident, as well as, better put yourself in the position to meet a girl with similar interests. As you interact with her overtime, sharing great conversations, your confidence will boost, and you will be more comfy with talking to all girls.

For example, if you like reading, join a book club and introduce yourself to a girl. Invite her out to coffee to discuss the "wink, wink, nod, nod" book. If all goes well, this unofficial date will turn into official ones. And even if there's no chemistry, all is not lost. Girls loves hooking their friends up, so just keep in her good favor and reap the benefits of dating with a purpose.

[troyboy49]

It's pretty early in the semester, so you can still get away with new people by sitting down with a group of people you don't know. Throwing yourself into social situations is really the only way to overcome shyness. It's not usual, but at least you'll get a lot of instant exposure to people you don't know.

If that doesn't work, I recommend a gimmick, like a top hat. It's a lot easier to identify and remember interesting hats than shy people. If you're determined to just sit around waiting for people to introduce themselves, than an interesting hat, etc. is the only thing where that is actually likely to happen.

[xosunshine]

I hope this doesn't come out wong, but maybe shyness isn't your problem; maybe the real issue is your attitude. A lot of people have taken the time to give you helpful advice, and all of your comments are just putting their answers down, without a single thank you.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[Avalace]

She means that you have no self-confidence. You keep saying you have no control (which is bs) and you should remain lonely. You just have to suck it up and put yourself out there. You can meet people anywhere you go. Try talking to people that you walk past and if you can't talk to girls, then talk to guys first.

[Asker]

I really do have no control over my shyness it is controlling my life.

[Avalace]

That's a load of crap. Shyness is all mental and if it is controlling your life, do something about it. You can't seriously say that you cannot say "Hi" to a random person because you are shy.

[xosunshine]

Not just the low self confidence, but you just seem kind of negative to me.

[Asker]

How do I seem negative?

[Anonymous]

in class! I met all my crushes and flames just by having class with them...its the only form of entertainment when you're stuck in a lecture class for the next 3 hours with a boring professor! if you spot a girl you are attracted to, you should make up an excuse to talk to her, something class related, like 'hey do you know when the paper is due by any chance?' and then she can respond and you could crack a joke about the professor or the class and she can laugh along and ta-da! you can introduce yourselves and take it from there...

[shortie]

The library, some of the quieter societies i.e. the art society, the literature society etc. may also be good- any special lectures or open debates etc. could also be good places to meet quiter, shyer less party-going girls...I meet some pretty interesting people in some of my tutroials, too xx

[oxcutiexo]

Your school must have school-sponsored events where tons of girls are bound to go. Also, a good way of meeting girls is through other people. Meet a guy on your floor that has a lot of girl friends, or a cool girl who has a lot of girl friends. Eventually, you'll meet one that you like.

Also, get out there, have confidence. Girls love that.

[Rainbows]

Well, it depends on the college. If you're a shy guy, I would honestly recommend trying to go to a small, like, liberal arts college, or something with a higher than average percentage of girls, or, to be more specific, nerdy girls, who often prefer shyer guys.

[That-Guy]

The absolute best way to meet people is through friends.

Start out by meeting other guys and girls purely on a platonic level. You'll see how that network will tend to lead to more people etc...

[roadkingp]

Yes its like a chain reaction. I have experienced it.

[tamc1337]

Its not just for girls, the majority of my friends were originally friends of my friends, and I'm friends with all my friends friends now.

[scnbabe89]

College is just not a good place to meet people in general because most guys just wan to have sex and hook up with girls and even some girls are up for this. Do you drink?

[Asker]

I don't drink and if possible I would prefer a girl who did not drink either.

[scnbabe89]

Ok well there are very few of those but the best place to meet friends is class or clubs then or maybe in your dorm.

[Asker]

I am in a all guys dorm though.

[scnbabe89]

Oh ya that's not cool I guess class and clubs are the only 2 places then unless you drink.

[Asker]

I might as well just admit I will be lonely forever then.

[scnbabe89]

No don't say that at all I actually know 2 people who are drinking who are happy and they don't party at all or anything you will find the girl that's right for you just stop looking and she will come to you sooner or later just have faith your still young. I did't get my first boyfriend until a couple of weeks ago and I'm 20 and for a long time I gave up hope but when I stopped looking it happened I found someone who likes me for who I am. I believe that's there's someone out there for everyone.

[scnbabe89]

Just message me if you wanna talk!!1

[CherishC]

There is girls out there that don't drink, there is someone out there for everyone. Don't say you'll be alone forever. I don't party either that doesn't mean I'm a out cast though. You just have to look around!

[scnbabe89]

This is very true!!

[kdizzleforizzle91]

I agree with what everyone else is saying... try the library or a coffee place, or through another friend or activity you're involved in.

[brunettebabex3]

Through friends, sporting events, clubs, libraries, coffee shops, in class, walking around campus, food court, etc.

[wally]

STOP being shy. just be your self and hit on girls you like.

[Asker]

I can't stop being shy I have no control over how I feel.

[wally]

You need to get over your shyness.

cuz if you can't do that how can you approach girls?

just be your self and socialize with people.

[adorkabletmtm]

Friend's friends/siblings.

Clubs/Parties

Clubs/Academic events.

STARBUCKS (lol)

[xxviet]

the best place would probably be class

[Anonymous]

clubs and libaries...

[Asker]

How to you talk to a girl at the library though if she were there she would want to be studying in quiet.

[Avalace]

You can be direct and say "Hi, my name is _____. How are you?"

Or "I'm sorry to interrupt you but it's rare to find a woman who is pretty and smart so I just had to ask for your name."

[khichi]

library...