There is a certain segment of female society who would have us believes that there are no real differences in how women relate, grow, learn or develop. While I will agree that societal conditioning plays a part in how women and men deal with one another, I still say a girl would play with a doll even if no one told her to because we are hard wired to like small, cute things that are a reflection of ourselves. Who knows, perhaps this is because we are child bearers and have to begin at a young age developing our nurture roles.
I will also say that science, which is largely unbiased, flies in the face of the idea that we are blank slates and that all aspects of gender roles are taught. While there will always be exceptions to every rule, there are many differences that should be accounted for so both sexes can develop to their full potential.
Acknowledging and exploring our strengths and weaknesses will also enable us to come to a point of mutual respect, even if we do not wholly understand the other side of the aisle's mentality completely…
But because there are people saying there are no real inherent differences between the sexes, we have established a sort of lopsided idea of equality. This type of equality doesn’t account for very real aspects of the female or male nature, which can hinder human development as a whole.
For example, men have been shown to have greater upper arm and over all physical strength than women. To counteract this in a contest of skills, a woman would have to probe a much larger male’s weakness, like, let's say, his inability to be as flexible as she is. A woman can also use her other strengths, like agility and smaller size, to her advantage. If however, she tried to match him solely on the idea that they are physical equals she may potentially lose the match.
The fact that women may not have the same physical brawn as a man doesn’t make us less equal, just different. For instance, two males can be regarded as equals yet a short man may have to develop swiftness to beat a much bigger opponent in hand to hand combat as his speed will help him avoid many bruising blows while finessing the fight to a final win.
In the above scenario, the two males are not less equal, just different.
But because we do not wish to nod or acknowledge our differences in an increasingly PC world, we have caused a bit of misunderstanding and friction between the sexes that can hinder our social growth.
For example, some men have complained that women get to take advantage of things like “Ladies Night” or get free access to dating lines while men have to pay. They point these things out as women wanting “special rights” as opposed to “equal rights.”
The reality is, these things have little do with ideals of equality and more to do with catering to male and female gender differences. Women are less inclined to pay to chat with men on the phone because the reality is, an attractive one really doesn’t have to. There are also a number of issues, like personal safety concerns that make a woman hesitate to hook up via a phone chat service. However, even a hottie may get bored one night and try a chat line if it was free to do so. I know when I was single I tried a few free lines to see who was on them when I had little or nothing to do, however, if I had to pay that would have never happened.
The whole purpose of a phone based dating service is so single men can meet available women--if there are no women on the line, there is no incentive for men to call. Even so, one man became so vocal about the free for women service that a couple of these companies started charging the ladies. What happened?
Fewer women called in and the guys were left with the a few truly desperate girls and guys pretending to ladies--great going on the equality front!
Likewise, a man in a small town complained about ladies night at a local bar and the owner changed his policies. Fewer ladies went the bar and subsequently so did guys--the bar almost closed its doors and saved itself by reinstating ladies night.
When men point out what they perceived to be "special rights" they are missing the point. Advertisers are catering to how women respond to a given social situation. A woman is not getting in for free on a Wednesday because she is chick--she is getting in for free to bring men into the bar.
Think about it--strip clubs and porno sites are largely frequented by males. If one type’s “nude, sex” or any sexual word into a search engine one would have to wade through tons of porno site targeted toward males before seeing one that specifically caters to women. Likewise, while you may see a woman relaxing in a strip club with the hubby or lover, on average, the crowd is mostly male. Males are pursuers and need quarry to pursue. If none exists, the human male animal will go to a watering hole where his quarry congregates. Smart business owners realize this and will employ enticements to get men and women together in one place.
The reality is that equality between the sexes is implied by nature. All men and women are created equal and should be subject to the same opportunities. This doesn’t' mean however that the construction industry will be over run with ladies wanting to work in the hot sun on a high rise project.
They can however if they are so inclined, but this will be the exception and not the rule.
Being granted equality does not mean that our inherent differences are eradicated; nor does an attempt to level the playing field mean that women want special rights. For example, a woman with a strong proclivity towards physics may be drawn to study the field in depth by a woman’s scholarship. Men with that interest will almost naturally gravitate towards that field without a second thought. The scholarship program is to lure ladies who may have shied from a male dominated industry and therefore pave the way for other ladies like her.
On the other hand, some women, like myself, will forgo the whole wedding route and marry in a court house. This doesn’t change the fact that many women want spectacular weddings and will go to great lengths so that special day becomes perfect.
Does this mean a woman is less than a man who isn't as crazed about his wedding nuptials? No, it just means she is different and that is okay.
I will also say that science, which is largely unbiased, flies in the face of the idea that we are blank slates and that all aspects of gender roles are taught. While there will always be exceptions to every rule, there are many differences that should be accounted for so both sexes can develop to their full potential.
Acknowledging and exploring our strengths and weaknesses will also enable us to come to a point of mutual respect, even if we do not wholly understand the other side of the aisle's mentality completely…
But because there are people saying there are no real inherent differences between the sexes, we have established a sort of lopsided idea of equality. This type of equality doesn’t account for very real aspects of the female or male nature, which can hinder human development as a whole.
"Acknowledging & exploring our strengths and weaknesses will enable us to come to a point of mutual respect."
For example, men have been shown to have greater upper arm and over all physical strength than women. To counteract this in a contest of skills, a woman would have to probe a much larger male’s weakness, like, let's say, his inability to be as flexible as she is. A woman can also use her other strengths, like agility and smaller size, to her advantage. If however, she tried to match him solely on the idea that they are physical equals she may potentially lose the match.
The fact that women may not have the same physical brawn as a man doesn’t make us less equal, just different. For instance, two males can be regarded as equals yet a short man may have to develop swiftness to beat a much bigger opponent in hand to hand combat as his speed will help him avoid many bruising blows while finessing the fight to a final win.
In the above scenario, the two males are not less equal, just different.
But because we do not wish to nod or acknowledge our differences in an increasingly PC world, we have caused a bit of misunderstanding and friction between the sexes that can hinder our social growth.
For example, some men have complained that women get to take advantage of things like “Ladies Night” or get free access to dating lines while men have to pay. They point these things out as women wanting “special rights” as opposed to “equal rights.”
The reality is, these things have little do with ideals of equality and more to do with catering to male and female gender differences. Women are less inclined to pay to chat with men on the phone because the reality is, an attractive one really doesn’t have to. There are also a number of issues, like personal safety concerns that make a woman hesitate to hook up via a phone chat service. However, even a hottie may get bored one night and try a chat line if it was free to do so. I know when I was single I tried a few free lines to see who was on them when I had little or nothing to do, however, if I had to pay that would have never happened.
The whole purpose of a phone based dating service is so single men can meet available women--if there are no women on the line, there is no incentive for men to call. Even so, one man became so vocal about the free for women service that a couple of these companies started charging the ladies. What happened?
Fewer women called in and the guys were left with the a few truly desperate girls and guys pretending to ladies--great going on the equality front!
Likewise, a man in a small town complained about ladies night at a local bar and the owner changed his policies. Fewer ladies went the bar and subsequently so did guys--the bar almost closed its doors and saved itself by reinstating ladies night.
When men point out what they perceived to be "special rights" they are missing the point. Advertisers are catering to how women respond to a given social situation. A woman is not getting in for free on a Wednesday because she is chick--she is getting in for free to bring men into the bar.
Think about it--strip clubs and porno sites are largely frequented by males. If one type’s “nude, sex” or any sexual word into a search engine one would have to wade through tons of porno site targeted toward males before seeing one that specifically caters to women. Likewise, while you may see a woman relaxing in a strip club with the hubby or lover, on average, the crowd is mostly male. Males are pursuers and need quarry to pursue. If none exists, the human male animal will go to a watering hole where his quarry congregates. Smart business owners realize this and will employ enticements to get men and women together in one place.
The reality is that equality between the sexes is implied by nature. All men and women are created equal and should be subject to the same opportunities. This doesn’t' mean however that the construction industry will be over run with ladies wanting to work in the hot sun on a high rise project.
They can however if they are so inclined, but this will be the exception and not the rule.
Being granted equality does not mean that our inherent differences are eradicated; nor does an attempt to level the playing field mean that women want special rights. For example, a woman with a strong proclivity towards physics may be drawn to study the field in depth by a woman’s scholarship. Men with that interest will almost naturally gravitate towards that field without a second thought. The scholarship program is to lure ladies who may have shied from a male dominated industry and therefore pave the way for other ladies like her.
"Being granted equality does not mean that our inherent differences are eradicated"I think we should look at it this way. Are we all protected by the same rights and laws of the government as well as the universe? Sure--but a man isn’t going to rush a tuxedo store like a mad lemming in an effort to find the best deals on a wedding tux like women will in regards to bride’s dresses. Sheesh, have you seen these ladies? Some of them will kill to get an Yves Saint original at 75% off for her wedding day.
On the other hand, some women, like myself, will forgo the whole wedding route and marry in a court house. This doesn’t change the fact that many women want spectacular weddings and will go to great lengths so that special day becomes perfect.
Does this mean a woman is less than a man who isn't as crazed about his wedding nuptials? No, it just means she is different and that is okay.
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