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Whenever I was dealing with problems with women my friends usually told me to act stoic, tough or I like I don’t give a shit (usually good advice). Confront the problem directly/quickly and then back off and do my thing. This often includes just not contacting her if she’s being unfair.

However a few have chastised me if I was acting douchy in my youth. I did have one friend chew me out in one of the rare moments I was in the wrong and he witnessed it. Again it was a very rare incident.

Anyway guys really don’t like to hear other guys bitch too much (in person) about women. Although it’s often healthy and necessary but the act itself can come off as feminine if it happens too much.

However I’ve noticed that women usually have a more tainted lens and assume the worst about the other guy when they give advice to women. Some of this is just natural given the loyalty/protectiveness they have for other women. This is also at times justified. Sometimes the other guy really is being a dbag and the girl shouldn’t tolerate it.

However women sometimes give tainted advice as way to get revenge on a 3rd party guy because they themselves were hurt by an unrelated incident at some point. As if seeing a friend being bitchy to another guy it’s somehow “evening the score” by proxy. Or they might even do this out of secret jealousy. They would feel better if their friend was single/lonely since they are unhappy with their own predicament. They would encourage a break up.

Thoughts?