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So, some context. My boyfriend and I were together for almost 3 years. We moved to another state together, and we had been living together for the last year. There were a lot of things coming in between our relationship, like how we were living with my mom (awk, I know, things were complicated and we couldn't afford to live on our own yet), we didn't have the same days off so we hardly saw each other, etc. It got to the point where he only wanted me around for sex in exchange for him doing things for me like cooking dinner or driving me to work which was down the street. It didn't feel like we were a couple anymore.

About a month ago, my coworker was worried about my well-being and expressed how he always thought I was pretty and how he wanted the best for me, and it was nice hearing that from somebody at the time. I ended up inviting him over to the house while my boyfriend was at work and we did sexual things. My boyfriend ended up finding out what happened after looking through my phone and I was trying to explain why I felt the need to do that, but he wasn't believing me. I broke his trust. I owned up to what I did but he was too hurt and has been hurting ever since and it kills me. I've started therapy and got an STD test which came back negative, and I'm working on myself to become a better person, but I feel like it's too late since he already closed his heart off to me.

TLDR: I cheated with my boyfriend of 3 years and he doesn't trust me and doesn't want to take me back. I'm having trouble moving on because he was my everything.

What should I do? Should I keep trying to fix our relationship? How can I prove to him that I've changed and I won't ever do what I did to him again after going through the pain of losing him? How can I get him to trust me again? If you've been cheated on, did you work things out with your partner? I still feel like a shitty human being, but I'm trying to fix what I did wrong.. any help or advice would be appreciated. :(

Ok, this is a very serious question because girls are born and bred, instinctively to give off, both body and indirect verbal, signals that we expect others around us to understand. And for the most part other girls will know them immediately when given off by another girl. It's sort of like an antenna that picks up an alert signal and interprets it's meaning with no need of fan fare between the female species.

Now with guys, it's a different story. Guys are wired differently so they need someone to walk up to them and grab them by the shoulders, look them straight in the eyeballs and say..."Ok, here is exactly what I am thinking and what I am wanting from you right now!" Guys think they are in heaven when they find a girl like this, and voila' ... like pulling a rabbit out of a hat, whatever you want, in many cases, will be yours!

Now, reality sets in... here is what the guy gets instead...HIM: "What would you like for your birthday sweetie?", HER: "Oh nothing, I'm ok", HIM: "Are you sure, I mean you must want something?", HER: Nope, I can't think of anything, don't worry about it, honey, I don't need a thing". Now another girl hearing this would be laughing hysterically.

But here is what happens with the guy... her birthday comes and guess what occurs when you have got her nothing? ...HELLO! ARE YOU THERE GUYS? ...and don't tell me "Nothing will happen". If you think that, you are in for a big surprise!!

Here's what she meant..."I shouldn't have to tell you to get me something, or even what that something should be, you should do it no matter what to prove to me that you love me regardless". In other words, the whole thing was a test! HELLO AGAIN? ARE YOU THERE GUYS?

Are there exceptions to the rule? ... of course, not all girls send out these signals and not all guys fail to be able to read them. But for the most part THAT IS THE RULE, AND DON'T FORGET IT if you know what's good for you... lol

What are your experiences in sending and receiving signals?