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PROs
- He protects me
- He never shouted at me (I'm the one that shouts and sometimes he talks back but never shouting)
- He was never ever aggressive towards me never hit me and stuff
- He remembers birthdays anniversaries and so on
- He respects my family
- He always tells me where he goes and with who, sometimes he even asks me if he can
- He cares what I think when it comes to decision making
- He cooks when i'm tired and also cleans (not all the time though)
- He surprises me for Vday and Bday
- he tells me he loves me and that he is in love with me
- he kisses me in front of the whole world
- He lets people know that i'm his woman
- He never cheated on me and he lets me use his phone
- He works hard and provides for us. (we both work but he has a higher income and always makes sure that I have everything).
CONs
- He hangs out with his friends and in some cases he even gives them priority (I get pissed and let him know)
- He loves to drink, but he never lost control he actually gets happy, and he does not drink at home unless we have a date night with a glass of wine ( i constantly remind him and even tell him that he is becoming an alcoholic but i know for a fact that he is not becoming one because he always drinks in the evenings never in the morning).
- Sometimes like at least once a month he comes late at home, like 3 -4 am in the morning (I HATE IT) but he always prooves to me where he was and with whom.
- Sex became a one in every 1.5 / 2 weeks thing (we both work a lot especially him + saturdays BUT STILL) he also expects ME TO START IT ugh
- He sometimes hides bad news from me
- Sometimes he just doesn't seem to understand or listen to me
- Sometimes he is narcissistic
- He sleeps A LOT, especially on weekends
- He rarely organizes something for us, it's always me that does it
- In the morning is he is EXTRA GRUMPY and he doesn't talk at all, he even is pissed at times

So I’ve been texting/video calling this guy for 6 months during lockdown. We’ve managed to see each other a few times after. We’ve kissed and made out one time.

Although we never really defined what we are, I think we’re kinda friends with benefits even though when we interact he doesn’t really treat me like a friends with benefits, he’s super caring and respectful and actually tells me stuff about his life. Plus doesn’t press me into sex at all.

He says he really loves my company and is impassioned by me; he also said once he couldn’t help but fall for me. But he’s very inconsistent and sometimes we can go from texting everyday to a week without texting and he leads a super busy life and all.

So here’s the deal,
It was my birthday at some point during lockdown and I told him a couple of days before and he said he would love to give me a hug and wished me a good day. But when the real day came he saw my stories about my birthday and said nothing!! 4 days later he texted me acknowledging my birthday by asking if I had a good day and saying he hadn’t been well cause someone he used to know died…but still…

His birthday is coming soon but we haven’t texted in a week. We’re suppose to hang out but he’s very busy. So I’m wondering whether I should text him happy birthday or reply to one of his stories and say “Is it your birthday? Hope you had a nice day x” OR whether I shouldn’t text anything at all? Oh and actually he never mentioned his birthday to me at any given point so I’m not so sure I should and I feel if I do I’m chasing after him a little.

Thing with this guy is I don’t want to get used to me always being there for him cause I won’t be! Sometimes I have a feeling he takes me for granted also I’ve added him to my close friends list on insta but for privacy motives.

And maybe if I don’t wish him happy birthday it might serve as a wake up call for him