Rate my Boyfriend?

[Anonymous]

PROs
- He protects me
- He never shouted at me (I'm the one that shouts and sometimes he talks back but never shouting)
- He was never ever aggressive towards me never hit me and stuff
- He remembers birthdays anniversaries and so on
- He respects my family
- He always tells me where he goes and with who, sometimes he even asks me if he can
- He cares what I think when it comes to decision making
- He cooks when i'm tired and also cleans (not all the time though)
- He surprises me for Vday and Bday
- he tells me he loves me and that he is in love with me
- he kisses me in front of the whole world
- He lets people know that i'm his woman
- He never cheated on me and he lets me use his phone
- He works hard and provides for us. (we both work but he has a higher income and always makes sure that I have everything).
CONs
- He hangs out with his friends and in some cases he even gives them priority (I get pissed and let him know)
- He loves to drink, but he never lost control he actually gets happy, and he does not drink at home unless we have a date night with a glass of wine ( i constantly remind him and even tell him that he is becoming an alcoholic but i know for a fact that he is not becoming one because he always drinks in the evenings never in the morning).
- Sometimes like at least once a month he comes late at home, like 3 -4 am in the morning (I HATE IT) but he always prooves to me where he was and with whom.
- Sex became a one in every 1.5 / 2 weeks thing (we both work a lot especially him + saturdays BUT STILL) he also expects ME TO START IT ugh
- He sometimes hides bad news from me
- Sometimes he just doesn't seem to understand or listen to me
- Sometimes he is narcissistic
- He sleeps A LOT, especially on weekends
- He rarely organizes something for us, it's always me that does it
- In the morning is he is EXTRA GRUMPY and he doesn't talk at all, he even is pissed at times

BAD BOYFRIEND

GOOD BOYFRIEND

[tatianamay]

Well, everyone has cons. Nobody is perfect. Make a list of your pros and cons and compare it. You're lucky to have him. He's a good boyfriend. Just talk to him about the things which make you uncomfortable. I know that bringing up stuff which you're uncomfy about is hard, but you have to do it. Communication is very important. You have no idea how many questions I see about women getting cheated on or their boyfriend being abusive. Your boyfriend is a keeper. You need to communicate with him for him to know that some things he does is making you worry. You need to accept him for who he is. That's love =)

[Still-alive]

yesssssssssss :D

[Asker]

Thank you this helped a lot

[DKierrvey]

Ma’am why is this even a question lol! He seems like a really good man and a lot of women would kill to have someone like him! No one is perfect and his cons are not bad at all! He could be a cheater, abusive, and a dickhead but he did not check any of those boxes for me. You should definitely learn to accept what you consider his “flaws” because I’m sure if asked he could come up with cons for you as well. And how are you annoyed that you have less sex when you literally understand that you both have busy schedules? That man is tired! And I’d be grumpy in the morning too if I had to go to work every single day! I suggest you invest in a good ol’ vibrator. It will become your new best friend! The other cons, like him never setting up dates or not understanding, can easily be fixed with a talk. As for him being narcissistic, nothing you said made him seem like a narcissist, but you’d know him better than I do. Be grateful that you have a good man, and learn to accept his flaws. Good luck!

[Nik1hil]

You are getting a really good deal..

And his cons can be fixed...

Last cons..
-grumpy in morning.. It's because his penis is giving him trouble.. Just give him a handjob or blowjob in morning..
-he loves to sleep.. Then cuddle with him..

[weeee]

Him coming late from work, being grumpy in the morning, sleeping a lot on the weekends, and not organising stuff seems connected. Maybe he's just tired from work.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

He is a Good Boyfriend I will rate him a 10, I think he is doing his best and
you can't ask for it anymore :) Best wishes :)

[MCheetah]

It sounds like you're more the problem than he is. That's a good boyfriend.

[Dinosaursandanime65]

Overall, I’d say you’re even lucky. HAH, take the wins when you can. Never know when you’re gonna get stabbed in the back

[ToastyOats]

Write out a list of Your pros and cons. Then compare.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

He's borderline ok because if he doesn't have God in his life.

[Aquariusmystery]

He just sounds like a normal guy

[TommyMountainFigure]

I would REALLY love to see his list about you!

[Asker]

Yes I know, i'm not perfect, I do sometimes start a lot of drama :( I admit though

[TommyMountainFigure]

That's the whole point though. NOBODY is perfect, and even if they were? they would be impossible to live with.

[Asker]

yes true, but see, I have the chance to leave him, but I have NO ACTUAL REASON.. i'm like in between and I NEVER LOVED ANYONE LIKE THIS... I care for him i cater to him i make sure he finds everything he wants and needs when he gets back.. see I do treat him like the KING HE IS... but because i'm not a BIG DRINKER i get mad... i grew up in a household without alcohol and he grew up with parents that enjoy drinking... so this is one of our differences and it's kind of ruining our vibe in general

[TommyMountainFigure]

Have you ever changed because you thought someone else wanted you to? I have when I was just starting out dating, and you know what happened? As soon as she got what she wanted and I did everything she asked.. She got bored and left me. What you are asking him to do is the same thing. Trust me if he becomes everything you want, you will do the same thing.. I'm not calling you a bad person, it's just NOBODY should ever have everything their own way. That is when boredom sets in. I wouldn't tell you wrong.

[Joker_]

yeah but is he hot or not

[JesseJayNeak]

Looks like you have more cons then he does

[Asker]

I'm not perfect and I admit, but I just seriously need to get myself together. I might have more cons than he does

[JesseJayNeak]

Indeed