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My boyfriend and I have been together for a year and our relationship has been great. We’ve had small fights here and there and would any other couple, but nothing like this. He has been under a lot of stress recently due to losing his job as well as family issues. We got into an argument about a week ago at a friends bbq, it was a very stupid argument but he ended up saying a few hurtful things and I told him that even though he’s under a lot of stress that’s not an excuse to say hurtful things to me.

Since that argument he reached out a few times but the texts were cold and distant and unlike him. The last text I received from him is this “I’m so upset I’ve been thinking about our argument all day. I don't know how we’ll ever get past this” and then - nothing. I’ve tried to call several times and text him but it’s been complete silence. I know he is OK because he has been watching my snap stories and has been active on FB.

I also reached out to his mother and his aunt (I have a relationship with most of his family) and she said she hasn’t been able to reach him either. I am at a loss of what to do at this point because I feel like although I love him and want to support him, there’s only so much patience I can have when he won’t even communicate with me. I also don’t know if this means we’re over because he won’t talk to me at all after several attempts. For reference, every other argument we’ve had over the course of our relationship we’ve talked about almost immediately and resolved so this is why this is even more shocking.

I’ve been dating this guy for 7 months. In the past month he got laid off (which was very detrimental to him) and also lost his cousin who he was close to, from Covid. Because of these two things, he’s been very cold and distant - not only to me but also to his close friends/family. Won’t respond to texts or calls. I’ve been very understanding and told him that all I ask is that he lets me know if he needs space or if I can help in any way, and I’d be happy to. But instead, he just ignores everyone. The last time I spoke with him was a little over a week ago. He had invited me to a friends bbq and everything was fine until we started arguing about little things and he said a few hurtful things out of anger. I told him that although I know he’s going through a lot, saying hurtful things to me is not acceptable and I won’t tolerate it. He said “I love you. I’m sorry and we’ve just had a rough month but I still want to be with you” After that night he’s messaged a few times, but it’s been cold and distant. Then the last message I’ve received from him is “I’ve been so upset all day and sick to my stomach about our last argument. I don't know how we can ever move past this” and then just silence. I’ve tried to message and call without a response. I know he is ok bc he’s been active on fb and Snapchat. I even messaged his mother (I have a relationship with most of his family members) and she said she’s sorry and she hasn’t been able to get ahold of him either. I don't know if this means we’re over or what I should do? Please help