Boyfriend masturbates to Instagram girls he knows after seeing how much it hurt me and the relationship should I dump him?

[Anonymous]

Soo I’ve been with my boyfriend since 8 Months and he is wonderful and he is always there for me and supports me and loves me a lot. Everything is perfekt, except that he jerks off to girls he knew and had a thing for. Bevor we were exclusive he texted with a lot of girls and tinderd behind my back. Shortly after we became a couple I found it all out. It was completely excessive because he a a folder either over 600 pics of girls form Instagram out of berlin, where we both live. All pretty average not like models or so. He defiantly stopped texting or dming girls after we were exclusive but he just gives in to is sexual side. Over the past 8 months I would catch him lying about looking at girls profiles like 8 times a day. And he saw how much it hurt me and promised to stop or at least tell the truth. But he didn’t... And he admitted that he jerks off to their profiles and imagines sex with them. It’s crazy because he remembers these girls names from like years ago Or like a random tinder match he couldn’t finde her name on Instagram so he looked it up on Facebook. I just don’t get it because our sex life is really great and I send him dirty pics a lot. And from a neutral Perspektive we both say these girls are like fives and I’m a ten. It doesn’t make any sense. And he constantly lies about it and doesn’t see he’s addicted of his single life habits. I mean it’s about time to drop that since we are together for a long time now. I am 100% sure of his love but it’s just really hurts my feelings how he can enjoy something where he knows it will destroy our relationship and hurt me so bad. 4 months ago he even had a nasty face account he lied about and even looked at these girls when my dad was visiting and my boyfriend had to “work” I personally think he has some sort of addiction since he is phone addicted. But yeah I don’t know is this normal behavior And what should I do?

[girlthatneedsanswers]

My boyfriend and I both have a porn issue but we both acknowledge that and want to get better. We don't see porn or fantasizing about others occasionally here and there as an inherently bad thing, even if it makes the other partner jealous. We both see therapists, and are working on our habits. Your boyfriend needs to admit that he does have an issue since he does this so frequently. People can get sores on their penises from jerking off too much and it can lead to real life sex issues if not treated.

[rochi1234]

If he thinks there is "nothing wrong" and he plans to keep doint it, then dump him. If he recognise how bad is his behaviour, snd he wants to change, then you can be together

[SirNimbleTongue]

Definitely, fuck him.

[DeltaCharlieEcho]

Maybe you should, I don't know, try harder to keep his attention... You're doing something that's making this his goto, I know I wasn't attracted to my ex when she was being a bitch all the time even though I still loved her and wanted to be with her. I just didn't want to do her.

Maybe try figuring out what YOU'RE doing to cause this.

[jahaims]

It's depends what angle you look at it from. If you can get him to admit he has an addiction and have him talk to a therapist I say work it out. If he refuses call it done. At this point it is close to cheating. If he is dming for pics stills or flirting that is cheating in my book.

[Asker]

Thanks for your message
He isn’t doing that I’m 100% sure
He did that bevor we were exclusive which is okay with me.
Right now he is just so addicted to these profiles it’s getting really weird.
And I just don’t know if every guy is kind of like that but doesn’t admit it

[jahaims]

I would say most guys are not like that lol

[lucas262]

This isn't related so much but its important to me to know how the girlfriend feels when the boyfriend has his eyes on other women i want to know what goes through your head

I can say that is the 1 biggest reason that compelled me to quit porn.

[Liam_Hayden]

Yes, you should dump him because you are unhappy, let him know the actions that cause it, and he still does those things. He cares more about his random orgasm than he does about you.

[Avicenna]

He's not havibg sex with them, so no. He should stop though.

[Anonymous]

He shouldn't be doing that. I would have a major problem with him if I was in your situation.

[not329446]

Get out before it's too late. Such behavior will only escalate.

[asshole_]

How often you guys having sex?

[Asker]

Once a day
And if not I still take care of his needs

[asshole_]

Then yeah, he should have no need to be doing that. If you're pleasing him, he shouldn't need other women

[Asker]

Yeah thank you
I give him all he wants
But when he is alone and jerks off he chooses these girls and even if he isn’t jerking off he likes looking at them

[Diana2222]

BREAK UPPP

[KrakenAttackin]

News flash, you don't own his sexuality.

[Diana2222]

I’m pretty sure she’s not saying she does own it
But why is he in a relationship with her

[Iron_Man]

Its your call

[Anonymous]

that's fucked up