What should you do if your girlfriend loses control and slaps you, what's the proper way of handling that situation?

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wiltingrosepetal · Accepted Answer

Godddd someone tell me how to get rid of the ai answers because they are pissing me off intensely WHY do they take up half the screen with their nothing answers?

Rant aside, I had an experience like that with an ex. Not a slap, but I punched him in the shoulder while we were arguing. I grew up playing punching games with my dad and brother, so much so that it's become a reflex of mine - I flinch easily and punch instinctively at any sign of danger. Great for street fighting, bad for a relationship. After doing that, I gave him a bewildered stare and went silent. The argument went on pause until he told me "don't make a habit of that". And I made sure never to do it again.

You have to navigate this situation very very carefully. Saying "the next time you hit me, I won't hold back" is a genuinely terrifying threat for a woman, and it might make her fear you. I mean, just getting tickled by or playfighting my partner is a daunting reminder of how If he wanted to, he could fuckin crush me. It's not a good plan to slap her back for the same reason. Just a warning to her that this is abuse will make her stop. And if it doesn't stop, a break-up is in order.

PeachyPie93 · Accepted Answer

Grab her hard and tell her don't fucking touch you again. I doubt she will have the balls to do it again but if she does, I would suggest breaking up because she is violent and has anger problems.

Miristheiss · Accepted Answer

You need to tell her you will never be with someone who would ever touch you like that and it is 100% unacceptable to EVER hit you.

Immediately get up and leave or immediately kick her out. If you are in public, immediately get in your car and leave. Leave her wherever she is.

It is up to you if you ever get back with her but I'd take at LEAST 2-3 weeks 100% away from her and no contact.

I'd end it. If she comes back super remorseful and apologizes and swears to never do it again... it is up to you whether you cave or not but don't EVER reach out to her again. Any contact with her should be from her seeking you out. If she isn't 100% remorseful then hang up immediately. If she blame shifts at all, makes any excuse, down plays it any immediately hang out and go back to no contact.

TELL EVERYONE. Tell friends and family you and her are BROKEN UP or at least SEPARATED while you decide what to do because she HIT YOU and that that is a deal breaker for you.

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

That's happened to me before where she slapped me as hard as she could. I wasn't prepared for it. I didn't hit her back although I did lose my temper and put my fist through a wall!

Love Doctor Brad · Accepted Answer

Navigating those turbulent waters of love can sure bring us some unexpected storms, huh? If your girlfriend loses control and slaps you, it's like hitting a pause button on your favorite song. The first step is to ensure everybody's safety, including yours. Take a deep breath and create some physical space between you two to cool down those heated emotions. Communication is your best tool here - talk about the incident when you both have calmed down, express how the action made you feel and discuss boundaries. Remember, respect and safety are the bedrock of any relationship. If this becomes a pattern, it might be time to seek outside help or reconsider the relationship's future. Handling this with care, empathy, and clear boundaries can turn a rough patch into a strengthening moment for the relationship. Love isn't about weathering the storm but learning to dance in the rain, right?

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laraWM · Answer

You should end the relationship, it's not acceptable

AviatorTom · Answer

Grab her hands so she can't hit you again. Look sternly at her. Then walk away.

TheRealPepperPotts · Answer

Call it in. You don't have to press charges, but there should be zero tolerance here. I do not care if this happens with a guy or a girl, if they lose control and hit someone, call it in and get out. If the situation were reversed, I would say the same thing. I know a guy this happened to. The woman taunted him and said if he called it in, no one would believe him. He did it anyway, and she was arrested.

Here's the reason why: Let's say you decide to get married and have kids. A person whose emotional regulation is so low that they resort to hitting when they get mad is not someone you want around a colicky infant or a toddler. I know people will disagree with me and that's fine, but everyone needs to understand that physical actions carry the possibility of consequences.

That being said, the physical damage that a woman can do to a man is far less than he can do to her. That's part of the reason the double standard exists. But translate the action from being directed at you to a child and suddenly it's a different story.

If you decide not to call it in, you have the option to give her a warning and tell her that if she ever does it again, you're done. You can also call the National Domestic Violence Hotline for help finding support groups, counseling, and other resources in your area: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233).

Here's some great articles on the double standard:

https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/insight-is-2020/201207/how-define-physical-abuse-in-relationships-slap-push

https://www.helpguide.org/articles/abuse/domestic-violence-and-abuse.htm

Confucious900 · Answer

You walk away. Then when she cooled down TELL her now you are going to talk about what she is upset about, then immediately follow up with, what she just did, was unacceptable and will never happen again. You need to stand firm and lay some ground rules. BUt that is something that triggered her to behave that way. Surely you or something might have been responsible for that. Try to understand that as well. If that behavior is repeating, you need to make her aware of it and you won't tolerate that, and if it continues, you leave her. You are a man, and a man never raises his hand for a woman. If you raise your hand for a woman, I dont know what you are but then you clearly are not a man.

JacobJordan · Answer

Normally I would say press charges but given how libtards have destroyed the justice system you would likely be the one in jail. So if she slaps you end the relationship and when she starts crying and begging you to stay tell her she should have thought about that before assaulting you

CriticalCatDad · Answer

Tell her we are done because she physically assaulted me when she claimed she never would and not listen to her apologies nor her cries for forgiveness and either leave or make her leave with force if necessary. This is what all men should do but not all men.

bolverk · Answer

Do nothing - Walk away, you do not have to stay with anyone who is abusive, If this happens regularly end this relationship it will only get worse. Also if you walk away saying nothing it is one of the strongest thing you can do as you refuse to engage in her drama,  IF you refuse to accept any excuses from her for her action.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Overhand right.

Jk. It really depends on the setting but either walking away or grabbing her hands so she can't continue. I probably wouldn't end the relationship because of that happening once but the next day when cooler heads prevail we'd need to discuss it

ThatRandomBoy · Answer

I don't know how I would handle that I know definitely not fighting back cuz that's a terrible idea but I would probably just stand there because I wouldn't know what to do

exitseven · Answer

I would restrain her until she calmed down. Hopefully the feeling of helplessness as she tries to get loose will make her realize that if I were to hit her back she would get hurt really bad will make her think twice before doing it again.

AaronKrieger · Answer

Assuming you didn't deserve it , then put a strong boundary right there for her to not do it again or you'll walk. If she doesn't take it seriously after you say that, then end the relationship.

Billlewis · Answer

I've actually had that happen, on more than one occasion, and I just try to be better behaved in the future.

dustybiker2 · Answer

Most people call the police. Someone with that sort of anger needs a serious wake-up call and therapy.

RetroReviews · Answer

Call the police press charges for assault. Shouldn't be double standard should it what's good for the goose is good for the gander

Anonymous · Answer

The proper way is to take it like a man, if your girlfriend or wife slaps you, you just have to take it either you deserved it or not, women can slap men if they want to, and plus there's more important things to deal with than getting slapped.

purplepoppy · Answer

Apologise to her and promise never provoke such an action again.

XXTruthfulOgrexx · Answer

leave, she obviously has anger or control issues.

HelpfulWoman · Answer

"i'm breaking up with you"...  that is the only way to handle that situation.

CrabCakes11 · Answer

Breaking up with her. She is physically abusive

nawtee_me · Answer

Turn and walk away…. No more talking, no more anything for at least a few days. Give her time to think about it and if she doesn’t think she was wrong in doing that then it would be over with.

PointlessNonsenseGuy · Answer

That's domestic abuse. You should leave, and maybe call the police.

Nifrayu · Answer

I have only been in this situation once. I reacted by slapping her back.

TonyMetal___86 · Answer

She wouldn't dare in the 1st place and if she did, there's a high chance that i'll block it! My block might break her wrist!

captain_voidwalker · Answer

That's easy reach back and give her a five finger death punch. Women deserve equal rights... and lefts

Lessthanaveragr · Answer

I don't know, my bitch stabbed me in the hand over her phone. How dry you handle that?

LiamJHayden · Answer

You dump her and find someone who does not resort to violence unnecessarily.

jahaims · Answer

Dump her for being an immature child that can't control her emotions

Staximus · Answer

If you didn't insult her then just walk out the door and don't come back

impalabill77 · Answer

I would just walk away and wait till later till she cools down and talk to her about it.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Warn her she better not hit you again especially in the face if you didn't hit her.

Hanrej · Answer

File for divorce. If you have witnesses that slap works in your favor.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

Simple. Walk away and it never look back. Get a new bitch that knows how to behave herself

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Call the police and tell them it’s domestic violence

Agape93 · Answer

Knock her shit in. Wanna throw hands? Fine.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Leave and never go back. Abusers always escalate.

whereismyjohnny · Answer

Break up with her.

MrExperienced · Answer

Block it and tell her to go make you a sandwich.

Alessandra111295 · Answer

End the relationship.

ranjanchickfight · Answer

Slap her back

fordtruck · Answer

Walk it off

NetherlandsNar · Answer

End it

sirderpsalot123 · Answer

Dump her

Joshgag2000 · Answer

Walk away

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