What should you do if your girlfriend asks for a spank?

[robot]

I don't want to hurt her but I see that she is interested in getting a little bit more playful in the bedroom. Should I spank her?

[lemonette]

If your girlfriend asks for a spank, the most important thing is to have an open and honest conversation with her to ensure that both of you are comfortable with the idea and on the same page about consent and boundaries. Consent is crucial in any sexual or playful activity, and it's important to establish that both parties are willing participants. You should discuss your own comfort level with the request, as well as hers, and establish clear communication signals for both initiating and stopping any activity.

If you both decide to proceed, take it slow and be attentive to her reactions. Make sure to discuss beforehand what is acceptable and what is not, both physically and emotionally. In any sexual or intimate situation, it is crucial to pay close attention to body language, and verbal cues, and to check in regularly to ensure ongoing mutual comfort and consent.

This should be seen as part of a wider dialogue about your sexual and emotional needs and boundaries, one that is ongoing and evolves as your relationship deepens. Communication, consent, and mutual respect are the cornerstones of a healthy relationship.

[Lliam]

Your girlfriend sounds cool! She wants to get dominated. That's a thrill for a lot of women. Do you ever swat her ass during doggy-style? Does she ever say "Harder!"

Oblige her kink. I think you will both would enjoy it. Spanking a woman's smooth, plump, round, bouncy, jiggly ass and making it glow pink can be hot.

You can't cause any harm with your hand unless you go crazy and forcibly spank her beyond her limit.

What does she want, to lie on the bed, bend over something, or to be bent over your knee? I assume she wants a bare ass spanking.

Does she want to comply passively/submissively or does she want you to play a game of acting like she needs to be punished where you grab her, bend her over your knee, lift her skirt, pull down her panties, and spank her like she is a naughty girl?

Taking breaks to finger her can be erotic.

Just talk to her about her fantasy. Agree to what she wants. Some girls get erotic butterflies from the idea of submitting but don't want it too rough. And some want to be spanked hard enough for it to burn - to be held in place as they wriggle, squeal, and play at begging for mercy, even when they are enjoying it. It's part of the eroticism. So have her choose a safe word that will signal you to stop.

In the end, it's all about communication. Follow her lead. Don't hold back if she wants more. She wants you to be a man and she'll worship you for it.

So do what she wants. Enjoy playing the game and have fun.

You might even watch some spanking clips on porn together to get an idea of what she wants. Men tend to be more gentle. Mothers or female teachers often spank girls harder.

[Fireguy17]

Make it very erotic, stand her up slowly pull her pants down, bend her over your knee all while telling her how bad she is, rub your hand over her butt and start spanking, but make it non rhythmic so she doesn't know when it is coming. Alternate with some gentle rubbing.
If she is really into it you will be able to tell.

[provokeesmokee]

You won't hurt her and you need to learn to control your strength is all.

Let her know how you feel about hurting her and practice with spanking her. It won't be amazingly sexy (but you'd be surprised), but practice sex is still fun sex.

If you want, ask her to work with you to find the right strength. Get her to lie down and spank her in increasingly strong strikes. Start light, and go slightly harder each time.

Agree on a system of communication before hand. I like "green, yellow, red" - green is good and keep going, yellow is good and don't go harder, red is stop.

If you hit red, take a brief break and lavish some praise or reassurance and take a small break before continuing.

Ideally, you'll explore what you're comfortable doing and where she's comfortable going to. Then you'll have a reference for the strength she likes with little chance of hurting.

It's worth stopping in at your local sex positive adult shop to ask about impact play recovery, too. But generally, you won't need to do much more than make sure not to over do it.

[Little_Bumblebee]

If she's asking for it and you're comfortable with it.

It could always be a good idea to start with a soft spank and work up to something harder, also to find what she likes.

[AviatorTom]

I'd spank her, but not so hard to injure her.

[DARKCLOUD1945X]

Why not if she is asking or hinting to try a little pain. When my wife and I would do it she would lay cross my legs and with a little effort one hand would play with her pussy and every once in a while, a smack on her beautiful butt starting with a light smack working to a point where she is satisfied. or she wanted to have her little rosebud played with along with her pussy and a pat on her ass as hard as she asks for or agreed on also loved giving a little love bite on her ass as hard as agreed upon. But never ever harder than agreed.

[Twalli]

Yes, but do it lightly to start. Don't wind up. Next time you're presented with her ass, just slap it gently. My girlfriend asked me to do it, and seeing how much spanking turns her on, I now do it a lot harder and every time we do it doggy style. I was the same way as you are, but I get into it when she gets even more sexually excited by hard spanks. I'd never use a flogger, whip, riding crop, or such, but I use my hand. So it may get pink from slaps, but not anything more.

[ShadowYamihiro]

Ofc you should, she ain't asking you to beat her up, spanking just turns her on and that is good for you obviously, perhaps after a while you too will enjoy spanking her, its does spice things up nicely

[ArrowheadSW]

I have never done that, but if I had a girlfriend who asked to be spanked I'd go for it. I'd just start out light. I can see why some women would like that. It is a bit kinky and can be playful if done right.

[WhereIsMyMind]

Sure, oblige if this is what she would like, and if you're comfortable doing it. Just be gentle to begin with and then see how hard she likes it.

[HelpfulWoman]

already asked this and answered.

talk to her and test differing levels of spank to find her threshold for her boundary.

simple logic.

[OfMiceandMen]

I would spank her, but I would say, we need to draw the line as to how hard. Do some test spanks, as I would not want to hurt her.

[exitseven]

I would show her that there are more fun things a man and a woman can engage in than spanking.

[Levin]

She'd have her knickers down and be over my lap before she even finished that sentence...

[JosyJosy]

Question why I got a boyfriend And a girlfriend now.

[artgorgeous]

Spank. But not hard. Ask her to tell when it starts hurting.

[AnusNdaPainus]

No you should break up with her women who are into spanking tend to have child like attitudes and mannerisms

[Massageman]

Maybe start with a candy "red vine".

[BigDog1989]

Would you ever do it if she actually did do something bad? Like a 3 year old

[mazzwe_]

I haven't asked but i got requested to be spanked a few times

[Surely]

An open hand on her butt would probably make more noise than pain.

[Anonymous]

Lightly spank her and go on from there, they usually like it

[mandyfire98]

If she asks to be spanked than spank her.

[ta-ra]

If she asked for it, do it.