You asked for honest answers so I will give you and honest answer. I don't know either of you so take it for what it is. The thing I have on my side is I am a male and I believe I have a pretty good understanding on guys brains for the most part.
I'll start by saying your boyfriend isn't doing anything with intention of hurting you. He isn't doing it for any other reason than a hot female wearing little amounts of clothes is something that triggers something in the male brain that we know we enjoy. It's hot. It's sexy. We are attracted to it. It's in our DNA. We just enjoy seeing it. Does that mean he is cheating on you? Absolutely not. Does that mean he will or wants to? Nope. Means none of that. Does that mean he thinks those girls are hotter than you? Not even close. He does it because he gets little shots of endorphins when he sees it. It's not because he thinks they are better than you.
Now something I want to bring up where he did fuck up in my opinion. Where he says he isn't attracted to them I feel that isn't that truth. The words "attracted" and "attractive" are not always thought or used properly. Think of two magnets. If you get them close enough, one will grab the other with out touching them because one attracted the other because they are attractive to metals and other magnets. Your eyes do that kind of stuff everyday. Your eyes and brain will go where they are attracted. People who look good are attractive. That's life. Your brain gives you a small reward when you find it something attractive. That doesn't mean your gonna strip down naked and throw yourself at something attractive. You just have to admire the beauty some people possess. Women do it all the time too but the men they do it doesn't necessarily have to be in beach attire for your brain to give you that endorphin shot. It has nothing to do with his urges to cheat or finding them more attractive than you.
The last thing is he says he doesn't masturbate to them or look in a sexual way. This one is entirely opinion based. But if they are super sexy pictures why wouldn't he look in a sexual way and/or masturbate to them? I think most can relate to masturbating in their day to day. I believe it's proven most men need visual stimulation. Masturbating is sexual. I wouldn't argue those points if I were him. To me it doesn't seem honest but you kind of backed him into a corner. You were offended so I am not telling you were wrong for expressing your feelings to him but you got to understand even if he were masturbating to them, he really isn't doing anything wrong. The only reason he even lied to you about it was you were hurt by it and he didn't want to hurt you anymore. This topic seems to mess with a lot of relationships. There are a few things that just come with being a woman and things that come with being a man. One of those things is dudes are going to jerk off and always prefer visual stimulation to go with it. He doesn't do it because he is picking favorites or because he wants to cheat on you. It happens because of what each person is attracted to.
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I would have personally unfollowed and deleted any female accounts (not that I follow anyone now to begin with, lol) if that made my girl feel uncomfortable.
I think that both people must feel safe and loved in a relationship so he must delete them. If not, then you know what to do.
Yeah.. a lot of guys make it seem like you’re being petty, because most of them do the same thing. A guy can appreciate other women, sure, but he doesn't have to act on it does he? Since he has a girlfriend/wife, everything he does affects the relationship but he doesn't care enough to know that.
My ex was like that.. following and “loving” other women’s photos. It made me obsessive and doubtful. Definitely hurt me too, so i get where you’re coming from. My advice? Find someone who respects your feelings. I've always been embarrassed when i see his name in other girls’ sexy photos. It shows his lack of respect for his girl and his relationship. Dont get me wrong, its very common so not all guys understand it.
Im with someone new, who doesn't do things like these. Does he find other women attractive? Of course. Does he feel the need to act on it/do something about it? No. Thats all i want. Thats what he should do without me having to tell him (and i never had to). Thats what i wanted. A guy i didn't have to tell not to do this and that. He just knows. Find that guy he exists :). I feel much secure, respected, and loved. In return, i do so much for him. Nothing compared to what i did for any of my exes. Simply because im genuinely happy.
Dont settle, is all.
Honestly: I’m struggling w/ this too w/ my s/o but I have never brought it up to him because I see no reason to. These girls are girls that he’s probably been following long before he met me, even if that’s the case it shouldn’t really matter since he’s still actively choosing me/prioritizing me. Also, he and I don’t really go on our phones when we’re together so I never feel like I’m put to the side. Either way, guys just like visual stimulus, it’s like candy to them. It’s not that you’re not enough it’s just that lots of guys are almost damn near insatiable w/ what they have and don’t pay any mind to how it looks.
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Because they are physically appealing. It's just eye candy.
"He knows I don’t like it and that it hurts me."
Thus his excuses are irrelevant. He does not respect you or care enough about you to give up his obsession. And yes, it's an obsession. A normal guy will notice a pretty girl even if his girlfriend is stunning. But following is akin to staring and gawking. Complete disrespect.He’s lying. And it’s pretty obvious 🙄. Is he cheating? Maybe not. But you better believe he thinks they’re attractive and is attracted to them and is jerking of to them. Why would a guy follow a model he doesn’t know and don’t find them attractive like make it make sense lol. He has wondering eyes
He needs to grow up. He's still stuck in "Single" mode.
I think you need to slap him and say "HEY! [his name]! Guess what? You're not single anymore! You have a GIRLFRIEND!" [Do a sexy pose and trace your fingers down your body.]. You don't have to look at internet models anymore. You have a REAL Woman! 😃". [And smile just like that.]Means he's a beta simp. 1. Why does he give trash girls attention online when he should be fucking you? 2. He is a liar because he's scared of you. Clearly he doesn't think you are the most beautiful woman in all the world... so he's a liar. Shit if my girl put me on the spot I'd tell her honestly what I thought not bullshit her nonsense.
I'm sure you asked this very same question just a few days ago... Yawn!
Yea you definitely pressed him for answers didn't you? Insecurity is an ugly trait to have...
Why don't you just look at the answers you got when you asked this same question a few days ago?
His visual fantasies are not your business. Just like your mental fantasies are not his business.
Most guys are the same. Don't think too much and don't make yourself sad.
Pervey just pervs
Ig bc they're pretty?
No idea. I have better things to do
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