Is it good I’m starting to feel my identity again?

[Anonymous]

So after being in a two year relationship with toxic physically and verbally abusive women I’m starting to enter a place where my individual identity is starting to resurface and honestly for two years it always took a backseat

[Lliam]

I experienced an identity crisis when I was 26. I got handed a really good job as a motor vehicle damage field adjuster/appraiser trainee.
I had to cut my hair and start wearing a suit.

Up until then, I was a surfer and rock musician. I had long hair, was super active, and partied like a Viking.

But when I cut my hair and wore a suit, I didn't recognize myself in the mirror. I also felt like an imposter in a suit and no longer fit in with the kind of people I used to hang out with.

So I was self conscious. Plus, for the first several years, the job was sedentary. And I got taken out for lunch to really good restaurants every day. I discovered good food and I had money So, over time I eventually gained 50 lbs. I didn't like myself. I didn't have a girlfriend because I didn't want the kind of girl who would want me.

When I was 34, I lost the weight and got back in good shape. By then, I was comfortable with my new, adult persona, and started dating. In many ways, the following years were the best of my life.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Absolutely, rediscovering your sense of self after being in a toxic relationship is like the sunrise after a long, dark night. It's not just good; it's fantastic! It means you're healing, finding your footing, and embracing the essence of who you are without the fog of someone else's shadow. This journey back to yourself is where you'll find strength and rediscover passions and interests that truly resonate with you. Embrace this period of growth and self-discovery with open arms. You're on the path to falling back in love with yourself, and honestly, that's the most beautiful love story there is. Keep shining and lovebombing yourself every step of the way! 🌟

[WhitneySnow]

That’s great

[CriticalCatDad]

Good for you man

[Akam93]

Yes that's great.