Am I losing feelings or just a temporary phase?

[Anonymous]

I have been with this person for almost 5 years. We have been through thick and thin. But lately, I am not sure of what i am feeling anymore. The situation started to change and i started to feeling hurt more and more, we are almost the opposite of eachother. I am reliable and determined as a person while for the other person to make a decision is a Bill Gates project. Sometimes i feel like he doesn't understand me at all even we have been through a lot. Sometimes i don't get him at all. I even thought about breaking up but i can't bring myself to do that. First of all i am afraid if i breakup i will miss him and i will suffer. Second reason, i am attached to his daughter (6 years old) i raised her as if she was mine, i love her so much. Today was like those days when i felt angry and frustrated, i was talking to him about something and he must decide and all he did was give the silence as a reply, i packed few things and i went to my family home. Now, I don't know what I am feeling. I am not sure of what I am feeling is numbness. I don't hate him, but i don't know if i love him like i used to. The last time we went on a date was almost 2 years now. We started living together 4 years ago. We started dating 5 years ago.

Am i falling out love?

[Anonymous]

It just seems like your relationship is crap and you’re not doing anything to work on it and maintain the relationship. Relationships take a lot of time, energy and work to maintain and keep it good. If you don’t then this is the result. If you leave it like this for too long you’re going to end up in the position you’re in now (questioning your feelings, feeling disconnected from each other and so on) and break up is inevitable. Not been on a date for 2 years, silence as a response when you try to communicate… Either the both of you wake up now and put everything you’ve got into trying to save this (and if successful, you then need keep working hard on maintaining the relationship for ever) or you might as well throw in the towel and walk away now because then it’s doomed and you’re wasting your time.

[ChicoFromThe305]

I think the relationship is just missing intimacy and y'all should go on a date, go out together, spend time as a couple, it should be a regular thing in couples tbh, dates aren't just for getting to know each other.