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This guy was very quick to ask me out but we couldn't make it work due to both of our busy lives. We bounced back dates for a few more times before we settled on a date. I had to reschedule that date and did tell him before that it was a crazier week at work. I called him to cancel as I wanted to let him know I was truly apologetic. He was sweet about it and even followed up the next night with a short thinking of you type text to re-initiate the date. Did a happy dance as that was really sweet given that I cancelled.

I then told him that we should plan something next week (instead of giving him a date on the spot) as my schedule is nuts. He then texted at start of next week to make plans. I gave a date for the next Wed but then rescheduled it again for Saturday as I had obligations I couldn't get out of.

Saturday came and he texted me early on to ask what our plans are. I slept in that day due to an insane night out before and didn't see his text until I woke like 3 hours later. I told him I'm genuinely not feeling up for it and asked if I could see him Monday evening. He was definitely annoyed as his text was a bit passive aggressive and he said we could try that. I then tried to butter him up to lighten things as I know how he must have felt. I would drop myself so quickly if I were him.

Monday came and he doesn't check in with me like he always does. I texted him 20 mins after our proposed time and said that we're probably off for today. He texted back immediately within the next minute and said he's getting work off a bit later but we could meet after or delay another time (inserts haha). THIS felt like his tactic to see if I was going to initiate to show that I am genuinely interested in him as he replied as soon as I texted and still suggested meeting after he gets off.

I’m pretty dang blunt and sometimes come across as agressive. Sometimes it’s really just a misunderstanding, but sometimes it’s cause I get scared, cause I was bullied a lot, so when somebody starts being disrespectful or other negative things, I get a bit aggressive. Now it’s more under control, but I still do get a bit... Otherwise I’m totally nice and smart and all that, but I dunno if my bluntness and aggressiveness makes me unattractive.