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I’ve been seeing this guy for a while now. He always tell me how he doesn’t deal with anyone and how he does not have any family. He’s pretty much a loner. When I asked him about his past relationship’s he would say they didn’t work out because the females cheated on him. I asked him what it was he wanted and was looking for. He said to be happy with someone he could trust and build a future with. Me being myself would invite him over, cook for him and try to be nurturing and loving. He would push away and not want to cuddle then want too or then say I love you but then say it’s all different for me because I’m tying to be better but I’m messed up inside. I have pulled away and started calling him less because he’s like a mystery. He would contact me saying “I’m sorry I love you and I’m trying and I’m not use to this.” This seems to happen often with him. His actions are everywhere he’s into me then he’s pulling away and I am over it. What I’m looking for in a relationship is definitely not what he’s probably looking for even though he says it is. I was trying to be something different for him but it’s not working.

I always thought the concept of loving yourself was selfish and extremely narcissistic. So, I never really tried it.

But I can't help but notice the fact that the more I try to please others and think about others happiness instead of mine, I don't really go anywhere with them. In fact, I notice that my kindness pulls them away.

Meanwhile my sister who doesn't even like people, keeps a small strict social circle and never had to ask men out because they always threw themselves at her. I've never had a guy do anything for me, especially after they've known me for a while.


People say I'm nice but that's about it. I get told I'm fake a lot. It's really starting to get under my skin.

That's why I'm starting to consider doing some changes to myself.