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I met my boyfriend at a language exchange social in August 2019 and we had a long, intense, online romance for about a month before I let him meet with me again. Once we started meeting in October, the chemistry was so strong that we were officially girlfriend/boyfriend by the end of the month. I had never had a boyfriend before this-- I am extremely picky and believe that the person I am dating should be a person I could see myself marrying. This makes it extremely complicated especially in the beginning of a relationship, when you cannot predict the future and it comes to mind vs. heart and reason vs. passion. I know one cannot predict the future, but I want there to be at least a vision of the future on the horizon.

This is when I get doubts. He will say things like "we will have two weddings, one here and one in Saudi" but if I joke about it he is serious and becomes distant. He met my family and close friends, he tells me that he talks to his close friends about me (I facetimed one of his best friends back home, and one time he said his mom told him to said hi to me). I truly believe he loves me with all his heart. But he's practical, and I'm afraid that while he does love me, he will return to Saudi and break up with me because of our cultural differences.

At moments it seems we are polar opposites. Even our language reads in opposite directions-- left to right and right to left. I feel like we are the positive and negative space in artwork, severely juxtaposing each other but can only exist from this juxtaposition.

I feel like no one understands this situation. Please give me advice and a different perspective—am I naive to think this relationship could work?

I’ve been with a guy for 2 years now. Things are good. Sometimes the good outweighs the bad and other times the bad outweighs the good. He has a lot of growing to do. I recently realized our future plans don’t quite line up. At the same time I realized I’m not willing to change my plans for the next 5 years for him. But I still love him.

I recently started a new job. At this job I met a lot of people and spend a lot of time with my coworkers. Over the past month I’ve developed feelings for one of my coworkers. I haven’t said anything... to anyone. I’ve kept it all to myself. I get butterflies around him and fantasize about silly things. I want to know him more. I get the feeling he also is having feelings for me judging by his actions.

Currently I’ve decided to just keep going into work not saying anything, stay in my relationship and pretend like there’s no crush lingering in the background of my mind. I feel like maybe this will just go away and it’s just a stupid little crush.

What are your thoughts?
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