Guys, Is there a good excuse for ghosting a person? How much does the time you were in a relationship factor in before ghosting is not an option?

[Charli7]

Have you or would you ghost a girl that you respect?

The pain caused by my ex's choice to end our romantic relationship by cutting off all contact and ignoring my attempts to reach out was brutal. I felt like I never meant anything to him. Those are the kind of thoughts a person can dwell on after being ghosted. It can scar a person and make them guarded in future relationships or even closed off to future relationships. I knew these thoughts weren’t doing me any good or leading me on a path to healing, so I tried to look at in simple terms: Some people are just assholes!

Guys, how much do you think about the pain it will cause her when you decide to ghost her?

How many of you chose ghosting because you didn’t want to think about or acknowledge the pain it would cause her? You ghosted to avoid dealing with this question or any hard questions that would make you feel worse when confronted?

[Jonn123]

Well, no. I've been ghosted before, and I know how much confusion and doubt it creates. So no, as a moral principle, I don't ghost people. If anything, I try to break things off in the most humane way, which is often by either meeting face to face or doing it over a call.
As for your questions: No, I would never ghost a girl I respect, if I respect the person, then I would never consider ghosting her. In terms of the pain that will be caused, I haven't given that much thought. Most likely because I know I wouldn't just ghost someone, so I've never needed to think that far. But now that I think of it, I would feel guilty/bad. I can't really answer your last two questions, but I hope the answers I provided were enough insight.

[bowenw]

A decent person does not end a serious relationship by ghosting their partner, or any relationship for that matter. Although it hurts to be ghosted, you will be better off in the long run without a spineless person in your life that is capable of that kind of disrespectful behavior.

[WagyuMoo]

There is no good excuse in my opinion. Mostly because I believe I wouldn't want it to happy to me when the day comes and I fall hard for someone again. Your next relationship will be better off if you end your current one the right way. Don't leave the other person hanging wondering if it's their fault even if it is.