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This girl I am dating invites me to an African food eating event with her neighbors. The neighbors are a husband and wife. We are all in our 30s. My girl (we will call her Jessica) has a side job as a dog sitter. There was a large crowd there. I went to the restroom while my girls and our neighbor friend couple stood in line. When I got back I joined the group in the large line. There was a group of 3 guys and 1 girl in the line behind us.

As I was chatting with the neighbor friends (Jessica neighbors because we dont live together) I noticed that my girls was talking to one tall guy in particular out of the group. Next thing you know the guy is holding the dog that she was dog sitting.

So I walked over and said hello to my girl. She didn't introduce me so i said hello to the group of 3 guys and the girl and asked what their names were. I give them all a fist bump. Then my girl walked away and got the dog back. I had noticed her phone was out and she got a phone number from one of the guys in the group.

I thought it was an odd question after my girl got this guy's number. My girl laughed and said the tall guy told her he wanted a picture with the dog for his bumble profile. It apparently was a funny joke. So my girl got this guy's phone number because they couldn't send it over the cloud so she sent him a picture of him with the dog.

When we returned alone to her place, she saw my face and asked if I was okay. "Are you upset because I talked to that guy?" I told her it was weird. She got defensive and said I was being overprotective. Then she started getting angry and wanted us to just sit in bed to process me being upset. I asked her if I could see the guy's number. She said she didn't remember the guy or his name. She had not saved his name in her phone but when she showed me she had not deleted his number and had 5 pics of ONLY HIM with the dog. "It's not a big deal. I walked up to them and asked if I could take a social picture for my dog clients."

There is one ex I had from 3 years ago who I broke up respectfully as I possibly could. That didn’t stop her from going ballistic and completely psycho. She looked to me as a savior and I just didn’t want that. She threatened to kill herself after the split and it got so bad her family called the cops.

But I was so lonely and frustrated at the time they I pushed myself into the relationship just to feel “ normal” (almost all my friends are married, have kids or at least serious with someone).

Not to say I didn’t like her, I did. But there are were things I noticed about her early that were huge warning signs but I was sick of being running single weird guy joke among friends and family. I jumped into the relationship out of practicality.

THAT I regret. I’ve had past women do much worse to me than that. Still though it’s actually better to be lonely than to be with someone who drives you nuts. However I regret getting her hopes up.