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The popular culture/internet relationship 'expertise' is full of advice on how to be independent, and that seems to be reflected in what people believe - that you must be fully independent before you can commit to anyone.

Being in a relationship seems the least popular - who needs the boredom of being continuously connected to one person when you can have all those choices of what to do with yourself (I disagree, just paraphrasing).

Then there is the in-between - you are sort of in a relationship, but you limit your availability - some people seem puzzled at the mere suggestion there is anything more than this (no telling your significant other where you are or what you are up to, no 'giving in' - with the obvious question being who will cheat first)

And then, of course, complete refusal to get involved with anyone because you are told you must be independent - and you stick to a certain loneliness in attempts to master this monk-craft that is being sold as a cure for all ails. Presumably, the benefit of independence is you are allowed all the flirts and flings and hookups - though I am yet to find someone who finds any of it fulfilling (anyone I've ever met with that as a goal was simply lonely)

Where are you on the spectrum?