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We were discussing and he asked me if I would help a woman with her groceries/ a heavy weight if she asked me politely to help her and I said ''No. I do not owe her anything just because she is a woman , because if a guy would ask me that I would not have helped him.'' He said to me that I am jerk and that life is not about giving and taking something back. But I believe I am true to what i believe equality between genders is.

I know every family has problems, and every parent has failed in some way, but this is no excuse. My grandma always promised she’d leave something for each of her grand kids when passes. When she died none of us received anything. I thought my grandma really just had nothing due to the fact that she was a struggling immigrant.

Just today I found out my grandma had thousands of dollars in multiple accounts. My mom was the one entitled. Instead of my mom giving to me n my siblings. She gave 100% to her brothers leaving us with nothing. Her reason for that is because my uncle doesn’t work. Which is not an excuse, my uncle is one of those guys who chooses not to work, has no ambition. Hate to say this about my own uncle, but it’s true. Me n my siblings needed that money more than anything. I’m trying to go back to school because I struggle working at a dead end job. And my sister finished school with $70k student debt. We need that money more than anything.

I’m not here to bitch about my parents. I understand all parents have screwed up n everyone can complain about their parents, but. This is was the last straw.

My mom has never been a real parent. She’s never taught us anything simply because she was too lazy. She never stood up for me when I was a child, used to verbally/emotionally abuse me, didn’t care when my dad would physically abuse me, and uses the bible to justify their evil ways. So this money situation has really shown me I don’t have a mother. I won’t ever even introduce my mom to my children. The only way she’ll meet them is if they wanna go find her. But I won’t make them visit her if they don’t wanna.

Am I wrong for this?

I’m not going to claim I’ve ever made a promise that I couldn’t keep. But for the most part I’ve always been a man of my word. I can count the times on one hand I’ve broken my word in a romantic scenario. It’s probably only happened 2-3 times in my ENTIRE life. This includes going on a date when I found out the girl was much heavier/less attractive when I looked at her Instagram pics vs. what she had on her dating app. I said I would meet up and I’ll follow through. But I’ve had women flake out, ghost, change their mind on me at least 20-30 times in my life.

But I’ve seen countless women still act flaky on this. Most commonly in dating but also in professional scenarios as well.

I’m just fed up with the double standards on all of this. If a guy flakes he’s a dbag and a POS. He’s a “man boy”. But if a women flakes she will get some heat but she still gets more leeway for “being a woman”. Something feminism never acknowledges and always tries to rationalize.