I recently posted a poll question here on GaG asking who Men and Woman thought held more resentment toward one another, and thank you to everyone who participated.
The results of which were surprising, but not in the way you think…
The question itself was written in a way that intentionally incited a “trigger” for anyone who had in fact feelings of bitterness towards the opposite sex. I was betting on the fact that such strong feelings would not be able to go unspoken, and the experiment was a considerable success.
The results of the POLL itself actually have very little meaning towards the outcome of this study. Instead, it was used to “separate the wheat from the chaff” so to speak.
Out of the 161 GaGers who voted, it would seem to be a pretty even three-way tie. But breaking down the numbers further, 54 of voters were women and 107 were men. These numbers make sense because the majority of GaG users just happen to be male.
Breaking them down further 29/54 women voted for (Men) being more bitter, over the two other options. That is 53.7 %. Where only 48/107 men voted for (Women) leaving them at 44.8%. Still a pretty even tie.
Now here is where it starts to get interesting. Of the 55 votes for men being the more bitter 52.7% of them were from women (roughly half). Where on the flip side, of 57 votes against women 80.7% were from men.
Why does this matter?
The way the options were put gave you a 2 in 3 chance of choosing to ally yourself with the opposite sex by either voting for your own gender or playing it safe and fair by voting equal. If you chose not to do so, it is very likely you disproved yourself by voting that way and you likely hold some resentment towards the opposite sex.
How can I show evidence of this theory?...
Moving on to the comment section (Because comments speak louder than votes!).
Of the 107 votes, there were 73 people who felt strongly enough one way or another to explain why they voted the way they did. 46 men and 27 women (As of Saturday, June 20th 5:30 (GMT-4) which is again comparable to the ratio of male to female on the site.
Of the 27 women who commented:
(17) Said men were more bitter and explained why they thought that way.
(6) Said it was equal.
(3) Said, women.
(1) Was illegible.
Out of the woman who commented against men, several of them definitely held resentment on some level towards men, despite arguing the point to the contrary. I have selected the best examples of how the way things are said (like the venom you feel coming out of the words) makes a major difference in what is being said. All of which received some kind of backlash.
“What if more men realized that "giving up" and "letting her win" is actually only going to cause resentment, and because of that resentment you are actually becoming a toxic partner?”
“Men go as far as to take their sexual frustrations and internalized misogyny out on women in the form of verbal/physical abuse. Not many women have been convicted of murdering a man because he refused to have sex with her or turned down a relationship offer, let’s put it that way.”
“I know quite a handful of women spewing hate on men and their toxic masculinity and I know a bunch if men that'll rant on feeling every woman is some sort of nazi-feminist and constantly attacks them.”
“There is literally a whole corner of the internet dedicated to incels hating on women and criticizing women as whole.. Gag is the same, there are so many incels posting about there stupidly confident analysis of women.”
“Disgruntled teenage boys have shot up their school due to a girl who has rejected them. Haven’t heard of any girls doing that”
“men are more bitter because you women are evil and more women are going to hell”
Moving on to the men.
Of the 46 men who commented:
(9) Said men were more bitter and gave their reasons.
(16) Said women and did so in a straight-up way.
(7) Said it was equal (and stuck to that answer throughout their comment).
(3) Were very vague and didn’t answer the question.
(11) Said either equal or men, however like some of the women’s comments, they said one thing but clearly meant another with the way they explained their thinking.
Again here are some of the more “venomous” comments that scream resentment, despite what they are trying to say otherwise. Again the majority receiving backlash from the opposite side.
“Females have various shitty attitudes and qualities aimed toward males that they shouldn't, but in terms of bitterness we generally far outweigh them.”
“A good looking female can act and talk like an idiot and has more freedom to "be herself" since men will likely overlook some weirdness (i once even overlooked a hot babe who not so discretely picked her nose).So for most men, if our girl walks for some stupid reason, we sigh as we think about the frustrating chore we have to endure to find a new girlfriend.”
“Probably men. We can only get screwed over by women and the courts on their side so often without feeling resentment.”
“I'd say men just because we generally have no one to talk about our frustrations with while women talk about too much with each other and will go out of their way to help a lonely friend find a good man.”
“In the western world because of feminism most women there are man haters while in more religious countries a lot of men hate women.”
“There's a reason "Men Ain't Shit" is a saying and not vice versa. Obviously women lol, justified or not.”
“I think men are simply because women are distracted by the abundance of options. They can just move on to the next guy. SHe's not yours, its just your turn fellas.”
“I'd say men have more resentment overall, but their resentments have more basis in reality than women's.”
“Men don't pull this shit, we get pissed and tired of women pulling this shit and tell them to grow the fuck up or don't waste our time. And that is not bitterness.”
"The gender war that feminism started, which is now also being fought from the other side by MGTOWs, MRAs and Incels, is only getting worse."
“Women. Because they fell for feminist lies.”
The proof is in the pudding.
In conclusion, nearly every statement made by either side was bitter in one form or another. But worse still is that most of them thought that resentment was justified. But the truth is everyone who voted for anything other than “Equal” (and meant it) is wrong.
Both sides see the other as at fault and granted both sides deserve blame for their parts, but the truth is all we are doing now is fighting a battle of hurt feelings, and he said she said and acting hurt and offended for an entire sex.
The only people we are allowed to hold resentment for are people who did something directly to us. Not a whole sex. And definitely not because of ignorant, backwards thinking extremists, because they don’t speak for all of us, and grouping everyone who happens to be the same gender together and using generalized terms like “women think” and “Men act” because of something you have seen, heard or witnessed, is wrong.
And being sexist is as bad as being racist.
And that is including your own sex.
So let’s all do ourselves a favor and the next time we are going to generalize an entire sex on the actions of a few individuals who may have wronged you in the past, let’s stop and think, would I say this to my mother or father, grandma or grandpa, sister or brother?
We can’t change the past but we can do better going forward.
We MUST do better.