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On our first date he act very sweet like holding my hands, and messing my hair, he also keep moving my hand to hold onto his belly and hug him from behind when we were on motorcycle ride.
He talked sweet and we even asked me if I would like to meet him again sometime. Although, when we were having dinner, he mentioned to me that he is quite busy with his job, his last relationship was also ended because of he barely have the time for his ex.

After he ride me home he text me thank you and Good night, to be honest he is a slow texter, it tooks about half hour or so which makes me wonder if he is even interested in me.
The next day, he didn't text me at all but after in the evening I initiates to text him first, he said sorry for not texting or call, he said he was very busy at work. He also said that he will be out of town for Tuesday till Sunday, which means Our next date this week end will be canceled.
I wonder if he is actually busy or he is just trying to get rid of me?
But why? What went wrong? Because I thought we had a nice date, and he was very touchy and flirty.
Would guys be touchy and flirty without feeling attracted?

Is it hard to get a conversation, a name, a date, a relationship sex?

And at what point does it become hard to get as apposed to just taking it slow?

I am not asking for tips. i dont play games,. im just asked when people talk about it they never bther to defgune it as if it has one meanbing which i can't see being possible bc eveyone has a different threshhold. as well as preference.

And say for example someone asks you out immedately so thats not hard to get but they dont have sex with you for years.. is that hard to get or half andf half or not at all?

Inversely takes months before theyll tell you their name, but they have sex with you that day.. hard to get or 'easy'?

And what if a person is actually just really busy but the minute they have free time they ask you out and it takes a few weeks.

Or they have no life but pretend to be busdy so they makle you wait months..

What does hard to get mean to you. and dont answer in platitudes about standards. you have standards if you dont let other people dictate you're behavior. in my opinion playing hard to get is like being a puppet on a string. you dont really hasve control over your actions, just the illusion. bc as soon as you act on your own there is no tension and 'the chase' falls apart. Thats my opinion i just want the basic technicalities, not the varied psuedo-psycho- philospical -therories.

So time frame in weeks moinths or years. and what is the first 'accomplishment'? getting a # a date exclusivity sex marriage-what? What do you win where you can say /he was hard to get but i got them. How do you decide you 'won'?

Or if you're playing what are you playing to? Whats the 'prize'?

I am not asking men about chasing or women about being chased. I know either sex can do either. i just want to hear from chasers and chasees what are you chasing for and what are you dangling as a prize..