How girls who get their hearts broken turn into undateable women

[Anonymous]

It seems that girls have rules for every dating act there is: how to speak to a man, show interest, accept dating offers, show affection, when to put out.

I believe many women have a hard time acting genuine around men because they have modified their personalities with behavior they see in celebrities and television, and things they’ve read in pop psychology and relationship books, which combined is a powerful cultural force that your typical girl can not ignore. Men are often influece in similar manner and take on a fake persona of confident, funny and charming when first meeting a girl to try and win her over; even though that may not be who he really is underneath.

At some point in a girls life, usually late in college or immediately after, there is one guy who demolishes her heart.

He stomps on it while she watches, right before he starts making out with another girl. She liked him a lot but he didn’t reciprocate for whatever reason.

Her friends who have most likely never had a meaningful relationship in their lives start giving her “advice” on how to hook guys in the future.

Advice include:

1. Don’t seem desperate.

2. Show less interest.

3. Don’t call back right away.

4. Don’t put out until the eighth date.

[This is where the mind games come in for guys who show up later into a girls life who are trying to get to know her]

She takes this advice seriously, and supplements it with a Sex and the City viewing marathons. She ends up worshipping a show that features old women who are absolute failures at having a fulfilling relationship, but who have the ever-so-useful skill of analyzing every minute behavior that a guy could possibly do.

Instead of accepting that rejection is a part of life where you will get burned repeatedly and forging ahead with a natural attitude, like men do.

Girl overcompensates and incorporates a ridiculous game that is just an elaborate defense mechanism against getting hurt.

She turns herself from a vulnerable, real woman into a cold, jaded spinster who no guy could possibly take seriously.

There is no reversing the corruption for the female after this brainwashing, and she will forever be tainted in the eyes of an honest, genuine man.

The same man who would have found her normal self to be quite charming and relationship-worthy is extremely disturbed that this pretty girl plays the game so hard. Because there is no guy out there who wants to settle down with a girl who is usually “busy”, detached, and so easily influenced by fictional TV shows, that he puts up with her cold gaming long enough just to get that notch on his bedpost.

How ironic that a girl who is scared of getting pumped and dumped takes on a game and attitude that causes guys to pump and dump her even more. It may take a lifetime for her to understand that most men simply want a cute girl who treats him well.

The girl blazes through her 20’s spending all her money on clothes,alcohol, having ONS at bars and clubs with rich and/or handsome guys. Each year her game gets “better” until the point where she can date multiple guys at once while being completely unhappy at the same time.

Her 30’s arrive and the nagging from her mother to find a man can no longer be ignored. During the ensuing panic her guard lowers enough to deceive a desperate guy that she will actually make a good wife.

The guy makes the biggest mistake of his life by marrying damaged goods, saying hello to a miserable suburban existence with a woman who is incapable of happiness.

[HookingSwan]

If there is anything I've learned from being in a relationship with the right guy, is that most dating games are, to simply put it, bullshit.

Your best game strategy is to have no game. Be yourself, be honest, be real.
If the other person doesn't respect that and treats u like shit, then u were probably wasting ur time anyways.

[ArchDruidMordred]

There's this girl I know that I used to really like... a lot. After she got her heart broken badly by her now ex, she turned into this bitchy, snappy, self absorbed little priss who is, by her own words "a real woman who takes a real man to handle." She can kiss my ass now.

[lacorine197]

love how 3 women down voted your experience, even when you stated most of the story, oh well meh.

[ArchDruidMordred]

Lol go easy on the spoiled cunts. Most of them are too pampered to understand any revealing of their own ways.

[BruceJender]

Often people, men and women, turn sour following break ups. The sourness comes from being hurt and having our egos hit. I can vouch for that on several occasions.

Maybe if you sat back and realised that she got her "heart broken" you'd be able to tell why she became such a pain the ass... and not be so bitter about it yourself?

[AleDeEurope]

I don't understand why women are downvoting a personal experience. Is it because you said she could kiss your ass? Do they expect you to go for a girl who's a bitch? I mean come on, that's just bitter.

[ArchDruidMordred]

Yea they're bitter. Look at the comments. Nearly all of these butthurt women aren't giving any reason for why this take is wrong which proves their own mental incapability to accept reality.

[udolipixie]

In my opinion any heartbroken person is damaged goods that others are suited to stay away from. Though when it comes to guys I tag in any guy who faces a lot of rejection I find most guys do not handle rejection well and tend to be bitter and resentful towards gals.

"Instead of accepting that rejection is a part of life where you will get burned repeatedly and forging ahead with a natural attitude, like men do."
LMFAO @ this. I find most guys do not accept rejection much less that rejection is a part of life where they will get burned repeatedly. Instead I find most are oh so egoistical and think rejection is some evil conspiracy by stupid shallow gals to deny him sex he deserves as his only possible flaw is being too nice.

In my observations it is gals who accept rejection as I find gals often come up with numerous reasons why a guy may not want her and all/most of it are her own flaws (looks, age, her personality). While I find guys generally can only conceive they will be rejected because the gal is too stuckup, shallow, stupid, slutty to realize what an amazingly nice guy he is.

"How ironic that a girl who is scared of getting pumped and dumped takes on a game and attitude that causes guys to pump and dump her even more."
Egh no unlike most guys it seems I value accountability and responsibility for one's own actions. The gal is not causing guys to pump and dump her even more. The guy is responsible for his own actions he chose to pump and dump her because he wanted to. Unlike most guys and society it seems I hold males accountable for their actions I do not hold gals accountable for what males do.

[lacorine197]

lmfao at the sex part, it must be true, most of you girls only think about is sex. sorry hun, not all guys are the same.

[margarida]

Yes, yes to it all!

People can't handle hurt, they simply can't, as if it weren't a part of life. Happiness isn't a constant state. If it were, we wouldn't call it happiness because we'd feel that way all the time, we wouldn't have anything to balance it out. We've all had our heart broken, in any way that may have happened, some people handle it badly. They shut themselves out, they push people away, they become someone else entirely and are blind to what living actually is. Because honestly, what they do I wouldn't call living, just passing through life.

Through life you will get hurt, your heart will break plenty, but you can't be afraid of that! Once you start being afraid to get hurt, you start being afraid to live. Getting hurt is part of life, it's something to be accepted. It's how you learn! You will have to break and fall and then pick yourself back up many times over, and you have to remind yourself who you are maybe everyday. But for goodness sake, don't let yourself become cold and dramatic and blind to the beauty of love and life.

We often forget who we really are and we cease to love ourselves and we don't really love others, they are just objects supposed to make our lives less miserable. And how is that living? It isn't. Never stop being yourself. Your heart will get broken, yes. But never, ever, let yourself harden and become shallow and empty because of it. Learn and grow from it. I believe that's how you can live and be happy. By growing from experience and always being your true self, with yourself and with others.

[Levin]

Where did you get this knowledge from missy? :P

[margarida]

@Levin From experience, of course! I've been there. I've wanted to hurt others because I was hurt. And it was awful, horrible. And I see people like that all the time, as well. Like everything in life, I've learnt from experience!

[Levin]

Ok, in your previous incarnations, I see...

[BlueSJ]

Hmm well, I feel I can agree with some of your points. Like everybody must have gotten hurt or got their heart broken at one point in their life even if it wasn't by a guy/girl they liked. It is part of growing up. One should use this chance to become stronger, learn from their mistakes, and maybe not "wear their hearts on their sleeves," yet open their heart and give a chance to the one person who 100% deserves it.

However, for that reason, I believe everybody deserves a chance. Just like how those girls should give a chance to the person who treats them well without the need for mind games, they must be given a chance too.

A broken person isn't an undatable person; he/she could be a wiser person and a compassionate, responsible one who understands what it is like to be hurt, so they try not to hurt others. After all, it wasn't their choice to get hurt. A girl who is broken can open up and be vulnerable if was treated genuinely right.

Also, not all girls like playing games and creating drama. Some girls, when they get hurt, they just become immune, so similar stuff no longer hurt them.

[Anonymous]

This is an interesting take, however don't you think it is a bit more complex than this?
Rejection is dficult for both sexes. And as with evrything, everyone puts tehmselves into question after such thing. It forces someone to evalute his/ her behavior. So if a girl or guy has been overly nice only to be overlooked and sometimes just lead on then it is a normal human reaction to tone the niceness down don't you think?
Now what you described isn't playing mind games, it is playing hard to get, and well anyone does it to an extent when it comes to dating. And besides this, there are times those aren't done purposefully.

I understand your point of view but at the same time I can' t help but think that being vulnerable and always available only attracts people who will take advantage of you, leaving you essentially drained out.
Building thin walls, and knowing where we stand doesn't make one a bitch or less vulnerable/nice/ emotional. I t helps to regaina sense of confidence after people have had their heart broken.

[RachelBrigs]

As a girl, with many girl friends, this just isn't true.

It seems you're the one basing real life off of TV.
By my age, it seems most people have had one serious relationship, and most people male or female have been hurt at least once. The couple of times I've been hurt my female friends have just tried to lift my spirits and in the case where the guy was a dick, they just told me I could do better. I've never had a girl tell me to say certain things, text a certain way etc whatever. That kind of advice is usually found online. .

But yeah basically what you're saying simply doesn't seem to be accurate in general...

Most people get crushed at some point. Some of us become bitter and jaded and some of us learn from it and move on.

[RachelBrigs]

I'll never stop being amazed at how guys on this site tell women what they think, do, say, and want, and how they interact with other people, especially the guys who have basically no contact with women. You really gotta be pulling it out of your ass. I Don't pretend to know what you guys as a whole think, want, say to each other etc.

[BuchitaBuchys]

It's funny because they keep saying how women are so picky, yet look at this long laundry list of what makes us "damaged goods". And then these guys like to say that "only top 10-15% of men are truly desirable, but with women, only the bottom 10-15% are not desirable."

Well, according to GaG men a woman is desirable/"1st pick":
-ages 15-25, some extend to 29, but after 30, women's desirability decreases with every year. It doesn't matter his age, men "get better" with age.
-not a single mother. Their worst fear is to take care of anyone they don't need to.
-virgin or low partner count. They keep citing how divorce rate increases with every partner SHE has.
-not obese, depends on the guy how he defines it as some consider Megan Trainor obese.
-proportional body, or good amount of T&A and symmetrical, pretty face.
-not a feminist. Not necessarily against equality. But most prefer a traditional/conservative woman who somehow still isn't a golddigger or dependant on his money.

[BuchitaBuchys]

-And now we have to add this, not been broken hearted.

So if we take all these factors into account, only very few women are truly desirable. Even less if we remove any underage girls (18 and under).
And they complain that women are picky? At least we let men age and we still find them attractive and not "damaged goods".

[Anonymous]

Lmao someone sounds bitter.

I have has my heart broken way too many times to count and I do not look to fictional characters for advice

Also, I do not put out early anymore because I have been pumped and dump a lot too.

When I stop tolerating bullshit all of a sudden it's a problem because most likely the guys who have problem with me cutting out bad guys are the bad guys

It's funny how people will call a girl bitchy for speaking her mind but if a guy does it he's bossed up

I don't mistreat all guys. But I will call a guy out if he treats me bad and I will cut a guy off quick who treats me bad

I am not going to sacrifice my self respect for a relationship with a guy who does not care about me?

You never been a woman before so how can say what stages women go through?

You can't

[lacorine197]

Most "Women" who say the guy who was trying to prevent you from seeing a bad guy is a bad guy, never makes the right choice themselves, and actually refuses to look for someone/ or allow the so called "good guy" to help her, it's like a power struggle of some sort, like they need to hold the control, of course you get your heart broken, that's what time is for to heal anything that causes damage, but if you keep living life as if every man is bad, trust me, don't expect any man to ever be with you. And before you say "Oh I don't need a man to be happy with life because i'm happy cause i'm single" that's what every if not all women/men say when they got shut down by someone they liked in the past, it's great to be single, however it is also great to find someone who share similar interest/feelings with you who isn't willing to give up. Seems like everyones ready to give up these days. Including me, I will admit, but i'm still trying to hold on.

[Opinion Owner]

@lacorine197 I Never Said that I don't need a man

[Mysterio421]

I agree 100%. That's why you treat these women like crap. You get laid. By the way, these girls who fall for that are stupid and not worth your time to begin with. Not relationship material. And they CHOSE they guy who treated them like crap so they need to stop bitching about it and take responsibility. But we know that will never happen. The women in their 30's, 40's, 50's are generally bitter too. It's quite humorous to see those broads get bitter. I don't tolerate mind games or nagging. I have a bullpen of girls to go to so if she doesn't show interest, I move on. No worries lol.

[Anonymous]

wow not even gonna finish this

for anyone who didt read it goes something like this:

"you are hurt? but why are you not working for my approval? i dont like you why are you not changing for me? come on ! be desperate for my attention... who cares about your heart?"

and to answer your every single "like men do" ... well women hurt in ways men will never understand
and tbh im glad men are sffering from cold/hearltess women... it's their own doing anyway and they deserve it... a woman is only like that when she is hurt

and by the way, it CAN get better, it takes a real man, the right one... and lots of patience

[Opinion Owner]

not all men... blah blah

[ArchDruidMordred]

We don't expect you to be desperate, we expect you to show that you actually give a damn instead of putting on a fake "strong bitch who don't need no man" persona.

[Opinion Owner]

a hurt woman is a cold woman

women who act like that have usually been hurt so bad before, put up walls so high because they just can't risk it anymore

i personally dont do or like that "persona" but i can understand where theyre coming from... and trust me a lot of them are not too happy with that on the inside

[Opinion Owner]

@ArchDruidMordred

[circlebill]

It's amazing! You gave your quick version of this male viewpoint-to-girls take as:

"you are hurt? but why are you not working for my approval? i dont like you why are you not changing for me? come on ! be desperate for my attention... who cares about your heart?"

And yet, this is EXACTLY THE SAME uncaring attitude that women have toward men who have been repeatedly hurt and in turn became bitter! What's good for the goose is good for the gander? Why do women keep choosing insensitive men and then have the gall to complain about it?

[Opinion Owner]

no its not...

im not hurt or bitter... the only heartbreak was because of a cheater and he was nice and all but cheated the other was great (only 3)
so no.

but hey, doesn't matter anyway because seems like most men only believe what they want
and even IF i was complaining about something... its not to you

if im ever mean to guys on GAG its because of guys on GAG bashing women constantly (no im not dating those meanies either)

im talking about the take itself, how it belittles the woman and her wound and only focuses on how the boy doesn't approve of her being hurt and wants her to ignore the pain just so he likes her
you like her? she is hurt/broken? fix her with extra love and patience...
not with that attitude

@circlebill

[AleDeEurope]

You're talking about a specific type of woman here, and that's the victim type, the type of woman who gets hurt and doesn't wanna get better because she likes being a victim. It's like the "nice" guys who are basically just playing the victim card.

There are 2 types of women that are damage: the one who wants to stay damaged, and the one who wants to get better. And I won't hesitate to get in a relationship with the second one. Yes, she may have some issues, but she's trying to het over them, and that's admirable. I'm not gonna waste an opportunity to be with an amazing woman just because she's damaged.
I'm damaged, I have some issues, why lie? But I'm trying to get over them.

Though I do agree with what you said, it only applies to a few women, it doesn't apply to every woman that got hurt, cause many of those wanna improve and are still looking for that perfect guy that fits her.

[BuchitaBuchys]

I've got my heart broken a fair share of times. I'm not spending my money on clothes, alcohol, nor partying or doing ONS. I'm only in a bar because I work there.

Nice to know that getting my heart broken I'm going to be stereotyped as this and men will avoid me like the plague for being "damaged goods".

[MaskedSanity]

According to GAG men any female over 30 is damaged goods.

[mrsingle]

@MaskedSanity I'm 30 and I say that's not true as long as 30 year old women don't consider me damaged goods

[MaskedSanity]

@mrsingle

Well, that's because you're a reasonable person.

A large number of men on here are jaded and tend to shit on women on a regular basis for the heinous crime that is aging.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@MaskedSanity I know. And they say we're so picky, yet this laundry list of what they'd consider "damaged goods" is getting longer and longer lol

@mrsingle you're one of the very few reasonable ones.

[AleDeEurope]

You aren't being stereotyped like this by every man, just by those you'd never wanna be with.
This take, though he aimed it towards every damaged woman, only applies to a few, and those are the women who don't wanna improve and are just bitter towards men and playing the victim.
Then there's other women who got hurt but who want to improve, and that's the type of women whio a good man won't ignore.

It all depends on what type you are, it's all up to you, and what I've noticed here on GAG is thar you're too negative about men, you sound bitter, and I'm sorry to say this, but that's not gonna help you get good guys, or any guys.
Like I said, it's all up to you, if you wanna improve and stop being "damaged", you're gonna find men who will not care that you've been hurt cause they see past that.

[mrsingle]

@MaskedSanity thank you 🙂 I really don't see the issue, perhaps being I'm on the older side myself.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@AleDeEurope I'm not this mean in real life. I just don't like idiots. And men tend to be bigger idiots on the internet. Thankfully, the world isn't filled with as vile men as the internet folk. Of course, there are women like this too, but the men outnumber them by far.

[DBAOracle]

@MaskedSanity I honestly only saw this whole "female over 30 is damaged goods" among the Red Pill community. I can't recall seeing it on GAG.

[MaskedSanity]

@DBAOracle

They walk among us.😱

[DBAOracle]

@MaskedSanity Some of their points are valid though, I'll be honest.

[Bluemax]

Sensible men will not avoid you for being broken hearted in the past.

Those who avoid you for having had your heart broken are doing you a favor. Consider it a fool filter.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Bluemax how are you always so positive? Lol I can't help but look at the worst in everything.

[Bluemax]

It's a curious thing, buchita. Several of my friends claim I am the most cynical man they've ever met. Many friends I know and virtually every one I work with think the opposite.

[BuchitaBuchys]

@Bluemax they would think I'm the devil then lol

[Prof_Don]

I don't have the patience to deal with some broken woman who is AFRAID of her emotions. I'm too quality of a guy to have to deal with some woman mentally & emotionally stuck in a mess that her ex made.

I'm no emotional garbage man.

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This is why it is important to make sure one is fully emotionally healed from one dating / relationship situation before going on to the next one! It isn't fair for the next person who dates said person to deal with their mental and emotional garbage.

[bedroomeyes]

What is this, an excerpt from the Douchebag Diaries? Should I even be surprised that men don't want to take any responsibility for causing hurt to another person, particularly a woman? The level of immaturity in the comments alone, my word. -_-

[FakeName123]

Everyone gets hurt multiple times in life. Yes, it sucks being hurt - but it is your very own responsibility to deal with it and move forward. You, and you alone are responsible for your own well-being.

The MyTake writer has a legit point - even though I disagree about his statement that guys aren't like that - because there are plenty of guys who are as bitter, damaged and playing games.

[bedroomeyes]

@FakeName123 Did I address how a woman responds to being hurt in my opinion, or did I solely focus on how it seems as if men don't want to take responsibility for hurting a person, to begin with?

How a person deals with their experiences is up to them, I agree.

I also did not bring it up.

[FakeName123]

What you are doing is shifting the responsibility. Yes, there are men who hurt - some on purpose, some by accident. There are also women who do the same. So what? It is completely irrelevant what others do, but what the individual does about it themselves.

Or do you expect anyone having had an hurtful breakup to come back to their ex and help them with the hurt? Like how far away from reality are you?

[bedroomeyes]

@FakeName123 What you are doing is working off of a low level of reading comprehension and trying to debate with me about things I neither implied nor said. When I said take "any" responsibility in my opinion, I did not mean "all". Not only that, but you're bringing up the women who do this, too? Is this YOUR attempt to shift the blame from the men who do this, as if it's some reasonable excuse for mistreating another human being? My opinions for how women react to men treating them like dirt and vice versa are no different from one another, in case you believed me to be a keyboard crunching femininst.

I'm not shifting the blame on anyone. To shift the blame would be to say that men are solely to blame for a woman's hurt feelings... or to say that women are solely to blame for their feelings being hurt. You and whoever else supports this dreck needs to realize that, if you hurt someone's feelings, you're partially responsible for it.

[ArchDruidMordred]

Think of it this way, if woman are allowed to find bitter guys undatable, than we have every right to refuse to go out with cold and hardened bitches.

[bedroomeyes]

@ArchDruidMordred That's fine, but... did I mention dating at all? Or are you trying to strike a side conversation about something that is completely irrelevant to my opinion?

[ArchDruidMordred]

No you just whined about the take without giving facts.

[bedroomeyes]

@ArchDruidMordred First of all, I'm not whining. I'm stating my OPINION (which, if you paid attention in school, is NOT a fact), just as the creator of the take is stating HIS OPINION, and just as you stated your OPINION, though it is irrelevant to what I actually focused in on.

[ArchDruidMordred]

Yes you did give your opinion but you didn't give anything to support it. If you weren't talking about the dating aspect, what was all that babble about this take being from the "douchebag diaries"

[bedroomeyes]

@ArchDruidMordred Perhaps I said this sounds like it came from the Douchebag Diaries because it sounds like something a douchebag wrote? And perhaps I specifically focused on where it said that women are to blame for getting their feelings hurt because I strongly disagree with that?

Wow, deductive reasoning sure is tough!

Just how much support do you need for an opinion that basically states that any man who does something like this to a woman is partially to blame for her feelings being hurt? What amount of empirical evidence are you reaching for to support something that, in my opinion, is COMMON SENSE? The only way I can see someone seriously thinking that they're not partly to blame for someone else's feelings getting hurt as a result of their actions is if they were raised in an environment where they were never held accountable and/or reprimanded for their actions.

[WeeGeeTheSecond]

Lol. Until you meet girls that act EXACTLY like mentioned in the mytake you won't take it seriously. And i've had the misfortune of falling for one.

[bedroomeyes]

@WeeGeeTheSecond You're 17 years old. You haven't met much of anything. Girls your age are suffering an identity crisis and many will act like this.

[Krillanr]

Aside from any points you've made that I might otherwise agree with, this comment has seized my attention.
"There is no reversing the corruption for the female after this brainwashing, and she will forever be tainted in the eyes of an honest, genuine man."

You do not know what my eyes see in people, do not pretend to.

A brains plasticity determines that that brain is never permanently set. If the brain were to ever become unchangeable, you would cease to function. We rely on that flexibility to continue to learn, and to process the day's information. It is what allows the brain to adjust our bodies systems as nutrition, temperature and hydration change.

So no, no person is ever broken, or lost, or hopeless.
With motivation and will, anyone can change.
Do not condemn people with such half thought notions.

[Anonymous]

I guess some might do this. After a break up, I want to better myself. I don't change certain things, like I never drink, do ONS, or anything because I don't want to. But I try to learn from what happened, and move on. Maybe taking a break for a while to have self reflection and to improve myself (both mentally and physically).

Everyone, man and woman, has gone through experiences in their life. Does that make them damaged goods, as you put it? Some might be, if they decide to spiral down, have self pity and self loathing. They would make terrible partners. You need a good foundation of having self respect and loving yourself, before letting someone else share that with you.

[Rei02]

The attitudes you mentioned about the cold women are similar to the ones I have seen on Men as well.

The point is to be oneself and accept That one needs to take risks and not get bitter and sour.

Many things can happen to someone when he/she is broken hearted. He/she can take the way of recovering and move on or remain With the bad memory and transmit the resentment and pain to others.

[Anonymous]

Thoughtful men are guilty of some of the same personality quirks as you listed above. I'm in my early 30s and I personally feel jaded/less emotional from being screwed over for being "the good guy" in the past. However I'm not perfect myself... I know I have broke a heart or two along the way. I once dated a girl who was "too nice"... so I can get the perspective.

However I will say this. Women really seem more impressionable when it comes to the fake world of hollywood, talk shows and soap operas. They also tend to be more easily brainwashed by biased politics in our public education and mainstream media. They seem to have inflated, twisted unrealistic expectations of men. No, not all women are like this... but enough are that this is a problem. Men can be influenced by this too... but women seem to desire a fairytale over a reality.

[Starfishlover]

I have actually met someone and I am myself around him. I am not afraid to show him my insecurities and my grievances.

[Tezzamc777]

You met some one? He must be a lucky man.
Does he know that you willing to share you insecurities and grievances with him.
He sounds like someone worth hanging on too. So dont let him slip away

[KDA20]

That is great news - I am so glad.

[alphadoggystyle]

i definitely agree with this, and please women get real, even if you dont agree with the majority of this post you should at least admit women handle rejection far worse than guys do, for obvious reasons, this is why women rarely dare to make the first move and why they are so careful, while most guys need to put themselves out there and be vulnerable to make something happen.

[Tanuron]

While I seen this happen, naturally not all women are these ways nor the ones who get hurt or "damaged" this way, but this is pretty too for a lot of guys as well. The ones who just start playing around with everyone and their heart and avoid all forms of emotional attachements cause they got their heart broken in the past. Know a guy did this to an ex of mine, and she did it to me sort of. Broke my heart as well, but I didn't follow their footsteps. It stopped with me at least.

[Anonymous]

So a guy can take forever to reply my text. But if I reply to him right away, he's going to get scared off because I look desperate. Now, if I take forever to reply to him, just like he does to me, I'm the one being a cold heart bitch playing games?
Mmm interesting!

[Tanuron]

Ironically you kinda prove that point. You make it into a game if you think someone is slow to reply you should be slow back. While on the other end, he might just not been able to reply back until then or have been busy. Its fine if u are busy too, but if you simply stop yourself from replying to someone soly cause they replied at a certain time, then yes you make it into a game. Personally I think all these desperate things are just nonsence, people should just simply text without all these silly assumptions or mind games.

[BackAgain]

I know what you mean. I started doing this as in a way of 'I'll treat you how you treat me'. I don't think it's playing games because if a guy is going giving you 20% you should NOT still give him 100% since he's obviously not that interested/invested in you.

No one has time for head ache ridden hot & cold games

[JamesS1980]

Why do you think he'd get scared off by a quick reply? Sometimes I reply quickly to messages, sometimes I don't. It doesn't mean I'm desperate, or in love, or not in love - it means I'm busy, or I happen to have a few minutes free. Just like you, surely!

[cyndyrene]

@JamesS1980 this^^^^.

It's like people forget we have lives. No one is sitting around all day waiting for a text because we have jobs, homework things that need to be done. I've never been upset at the speed of which someone text me. I do, however, find it offensive when people don't reply at all. But then I state that rather then play more games. JUST BE HONEST PEOPLE!