Things Some Girls Do That Will Ruin a Relationship.

[audrey_aisha]

I'm gonna tell you 4 things that some girls do that will ruin a Relationship.

1. Worry about what is on his phone

Some Girls will just constantly worry about what he's doing on his phone. This can cause serious problems in a Relationship. A good percent of the time he's not doing anything wrong on his phone.

If you ever breakup this can sometimes make a guy unsure if his next girlfriend is worrying about what he's doing on his phone.

2. Being Bossy

Sometimes girls will just want him to ask for everything. He has a life too so just give him a little space. A few guys will like this at first to some extent but after a while it will get very annoying.

Let him have a say on things too.

3. Always obsessing over the imperfections of your boyfriend

When you keep telling your boyfriend about his faults your dwelling on the past. Sometimes you need to just forgive and forget. If you keep complaining it will ruin your relationship. You have to remember you have faults also.

4. Not appreciating him enough

If your gonna be in a relationship you need to acknowledge what he does for you. If he does nice things for you you need to appreciate the thought in what he has done.

[vonasaurus]

this should have been titled "things idiots do that ruin relationships".

these things aren't exclusive to women; men do them too. and i absolutely agree re: the phone thing. if you don't trust your partner without access to his or her devices, you should not be with that person, period.

[DiogoRibeiro]

Being insecure and obsessing over my phone is one of the things some exes did that drove me crazy.

I've never cheated on anyone, but it's a matter of trust and my right to privacy.

[Lopezz1999]

Bro that's actually one of my biggest pet peeves! Right you are!

[pervertedjester]

I was just talking about this in relation to 20 something women to a friend of mine. It's good that you picked up on these early, it'll save you trouble later. Still a very good first take. Can't wait to read the next one.

[Browneye57]

Guys have 3 basic needs that are critical. You hit on a couple of them in a round-about way...
But the worst thing you can do is screw somebody else. That will usually kill a relationship. LOL

You hit on respect mostly, and trust. Without love/affection/respect, your relationship is doomed. It is #3 of the top three things a guy needs. Graciousness and appreciation are very high on the list - it paves over a LOT of relationship-sin.

So the other 2 things...
1. Sex. A guy has 15-25 times as much testosterone as you do - you know, the sex-drive hormone. It is physically impossible for a woman to grasp this reality. in my opinion if they could it would be a game changer.
2. Food. Make your guy a nice dinner, bring him a sandwich, take care of his hunger, and see what that does to his expression, his demeanor, his response to YOU! There's a reason they say the best way to get to a man's heart is through his stomach.
3. And finally, as mention, the love/affection/respect.

I find about half the women understand this. The rest don't, or they think it's not important, or they simply won't do these things, or think they don't have to. FAIL. They'll actually come back with, "oh, he needs friendship" or companionship. FAIL again.

Your #3 is about lack of respect and appreciation. Guys get with girls hoping they'll never change. Girls get with guys thinking if they bug the shit out of them long enough and hard enough he MIGHT become someone she can stand to be with. FAIL

And there ya go, simple really. :)

[btbc92]

This is really good advice. However, it's not paramount. If a girl is suspicious, she has the right be if she senses something is off. As long as he is not doing anything suspicious and something that will destroy the trust between him and her, he should just calmly respect why she is the way she is and reassure her. As long as she doesn't do this all the time, it should be fine. But if he gets angry about it, he's just making the situation worse. Yes, he's entitled to privacy. But now so is she. Just as long as he's not being a hypocrite. Especially if she's speaking with guys. Overall this is a very good take.

[Poppykate]

Let's do one for the girls...
1. Not appreciating the things we do for you ( particularly if we live with you) like cooking, cleaning etc. We are not your mother. We CHOOSE to do these things for you. A simple thank you is all we ask!
2. Yes at some point we will ask for some level of commitment. It's a sign of a mature relationship. Stop acting like we are asking for a kidney!. We are not! If you don't like it, don't get upset when we go looking for it elsewhere!
3. Freedom is a two way equal street!. If you are doing something, that you wouldn't want your girlfriend doing... then don't do it! because this is you giving her license to do it!
4. Get of the fuckin' phone or Internet already. Or lose your girl to a electronic device! Lol

[Lopezz1999]

Well said!

[Marcussg]

I had a friend whosr day would be ruined if her phone wasn't charged. It gets on my last nerve. Enjoy the monent or go your way.

[Paultripps]

All true but minor. We are just as worried about her phone as she is, so I don't think this is gender neutral. Esp as many guys will text a girl even when in a relationship. Girls are constantly being presented with new options, or old options. And soooo many girl get addicted to that attention it's hard to find a girl that's loyal these days...

[Run_Vipexuality]

Well that will ruin most relationships in the 1st hour. However, I won't see number 3 as inherently always a bad thing. If he is imperfect in how he handles life's challenges and seems to always blame others and don't take accountability, then I believe it is fair for her to consider he is not going to make for a great mate. Being a mate is the goal. Not being a date.

[Sloane]

My advice for guys is, just hand over the phone, after she's done examining it hopefully the issue will go away.

[DiogoRibeiro]

No way, man. It's a matter of trust and privacy. I've never cheated on any of the women I dated, but I would never hand over my phone either.

[Lopezz1999]

You see, I would do that, but then I'd begin to wonder whether or not she actually trusts me very well. I don't have to look through someone's phone if I trust them.

[genuinlysensitive]

In my experience when she obsesses over your phone it is a huge red flag that she is projecting, and she is the one that is actually cheating.

[Lopezz1999]

@genuinlysensitive In your experience? Hm, well I guess I'll have to look into that a bit more.

[DiogoRibeiro]

@genuinlysensitive I don't think that they're projecting when they do that (most of the time anyway), but an insecure woman is a red flag already so we agree on that. 😉

[ThatUnknownGirl]

Not always as things can be taken out of context if they go through it, also it invades the privacy of the people you have been texting (girl or guy).

[Lopezz1999]

@ThatUnknownGirl It's her reasoning for going through his phone that makes her insecure.

[foodandfaith]

Yikes. This spoke volumes. Although I'm almost in a relationship, I always worry about the phone. Like I don't tell him, but I wonder, "oh he must be texting some girl." I have confronted about it, and he was hurt, but we got over it.

[Kristie12]

Clingyness is probably one of the biggest turn offs.

[fueledbythc]

How to avoid her from acting like this? Stand up to her. She wants someone who will take action not listen to her every word. She will treat you like a bitch then. You need to be assertive.

[Sloane]

That'll just make her a lot more suspicious.

[fueledbythc]

@Sloane girls who act like the points made in the post are irrational and need someone to be harsh to them.

[realperson02]

I don't know how many girls will learn from this. But still i appreciate your boldness to make this mytake.

[Anonymous]

How about respect for privacy. If you have to tell your friends everything that goes on in a relationship, he will eventually dump you.

[almadafie]

the first one I would find cute, the second one as well, the third one can be a bit problematic, and the fourth one as well

[John_Doesnt]

Girls obsess over social media too.

[audrey_aisha]

Yes but that isn't a big reason why relationships end

[John_Doesnt]

Have you seen the questions on this site? Girls always asking if their boyfriend is cheating or doesn't love them anymore because of something they did on instagram.

[audrey_aisha]

Yeah It could still be apart of the 1st reason "Worry about what is on his phone".

[genuinlysensitive]

I agree I would add "she obsesses/uses social media to cheat". Also, two very good ways to screw up a relationship.

[hananzg]

i needed this, thank you so much

[Unit1]

Yep! Very true :)

[COCOCHANEL]

good points

[admles]

Yep, great take!

[Rosewanda]

I like this myTake.