I only do open relationships, and I can tell you without reading this question will get a lot of typical answers from people who are frankly, ignorant. They are living in the dark, yet ironically at the same time very self-righteous and sure of the supremacy of their knowledge.
Think about it. What is better, more or less? Which is better, sharing or hoarding? Abundance or scarcity? Love or fear? Open or closed? The answers are the same for me across the board.
Some people say open relationships aren't for them, but even those people I would say "why not?" because to be open is simply to be honest that there are always options. Exclusive or monogamous relationships are inherently dishonest, pretending like they are only with one person, when the truth is they just jump from one to the next. It's not "one and only", it's "one at a time". Find a healthy and attractive person (not an incel with no options) over 25 in a monogamous relationship and it's most likely this is not the very first and only relationship they or their partner have ever been in. Humans rarely "mate for life" (though a fair number do date a few people then settle on one they stick with).
This is completely something you can do in the parameters of an open relationship as well. No one is forcing you to go out and engage other people if you're in an open relationship. You can (and many couples do) have an open relationship where it's just two people. You're free to leave, as well, same as in a monogamous relationship.
Being open isn't for insecure people who want to cater to their insecurity. It's fine to be insecure, most people have at least a little insecurity. But to not want to improve, to be better, to let go of your fear? That's anathema to me. Why would I want to hold onto negative things like fear, insecurity, jealousy, possessiveness? Being open is challenging and requires growth and maturity. That's one reason people have issues doing it successfully, the other being that they are still in a monogamous mindset and not really open. They're still holding on to the dishonesty of monogamy while telling people they are practicing polyamory, which ultimately is problematic.
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I never been in one so I couldn’t really tell you , I been with girls’ that told me they were in one , whether they were telling me the truth or not , I didn’t really care , I still banged her anyways with a condom on if people like screwing other people and than going back to their so called partners’ that’s their problem not mine , I am old school when it comes to relationships , if I get into a relationship with a girl she is the only girl I am having sex with.
I think it's bs... either HAVE a relationship or DON'T have a relationship. A person shouldn't make other people crazy just because they're greedy and indecisive... It messes with the "SO" trapped in the scenario... it messes with the kids trapped in the scenario... and it's not fair to anyone.
Some people can make it work. Other's can't. It works for people that enjoy ut and make it work.
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An open relationship is not for everyone, but if the couple agree to it, I guess it's a reasonable type of relationship.
In my world, "open relationship" is an oxymoron. A relationship does not exist unless there is a mutual commitment to being exclusive.
great for those that use them properly and can do that.
If couples can adjust to and handle that kind of relationship, I think it is fine. At one point I became 'jealous' or somewhat resentful of my partner becoming more involved with another man other than just sexually. If it is just sex and no emotional tie, and both are VERY careful and selective with regard to partners (STD etc) I do not have any objection to my partner and I being in an open relationship
It's disgusting and interestingly these disgusting ideas always come from ugly ass couples.
I don’t think I’d enjoy it, but it works fine for others if there is enough open communication and all parties are comfortable with it
Those who are in open relationships honestly do not love their original partner enough to make him or her feel special. I think it’s a truly evil thing to even consider.
What other people do is up to them, but they will never be for me!
It has never been a problem for us for going on 10 years.
I think it's a good idea. Monogamy is an artificial recent social constrct that betrays biology and human nature.
I think they're great for whoever is interested in them
I think they are crap…just say single and do friends with benefits if you are that obsessed with sex
Knew a whole bunch of people would disapprove bug if it works it works nothings wrong with it
A way to cheat without consequences.
I think it’s bullshit
These are not real relationships.
not for me n doesn't exist in my dictionary
What relationship
Isn't that called dating?
I have zero interest in having one.
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